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Baby boomers and late life divorce #4721031
04/08/18 10:37 PM
04/08/18 10:37 PM
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California's Wine Country
SLO_Town Offline OP
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Hello:

My wife and I are baby boomers in our mid 60s, married 41 years. We just found out a third couple friend of ours is considering divorce. This comes after my SIL and BIL (our best friends) are in the final process of divorcing after being married 45 years. And just last week we learned of another couple friend of ours who are starting the divorce process. They have been married 37 years. And just last night, one of my ultra long term friends (from high school); we were there for dinner and learned that they are getting divorced! They've been married 35 years.

WTH? Is this some kind of new thing?

Scott


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721036
04/08/18 10:41 PM
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It might be a new tax dodge thing. sick



Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721037
04/08/18 10:42 PM
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Oakville, Ontario
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It's contagious! I remember when I was married to my first wife and every Friday night we would get together with 3 other couples to cook up steak and drink. One by one each of those couples split up and when it got to the 3rd couple I said to my wife "don't get any funny ideas" and 6 months later we split up too. Best thing ever though, I met a much nicer woman and we've been married 5 years now smile

Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: oldhp] #4721041
04/08/18 10:44 PM
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Originally Posted By: oldhp
It might be a new tax dodge thing. sick


I laughed, but between this and healthcare, kinda makes you wonder....


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721044
04/08/18 10:49 PM
04/08/18 10:49 PM
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I had heard at one point of divorcing for the purpose of college aid for kids...

Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721047
04/08/18 10:51 PM
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A very high percentage of men in my area who are 60 yes or older... Typically have "wives" who are 15-20 years younger than them. Quite a common phenomenon here. It is rather rare to see older men and women together.


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: oldhp] #4721048
04/08/18 10:51 PM
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California's Wine Country
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Originally Posted By: oldhp
It might be a new tax dodge thing. sick


Not in the case of my BIL and SIL. Their standard of living has already been destroyed. It's too early to know what will happen with the other two couples, but all I know is that if my wife and I got divorced it would significantly lower our current standard of living.

In the case of my BIL and SIL, they should have divorced 20 years ago. The second couple have always had an odd marriage, but it is a 37 year marriage after all. With my old high school friend, that surprised the heck of my wife and I. They always seemed like a couple who got on well together.

Scott


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: JHZR2] #4721053
04/08/18 10:59 PM
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California's Wine Country
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Originally Posted By: JHZR2
I had heard at one point of divorcing for the purpose of college aid for kids...


All kids involved are in their mid '30s, with their own careers and families.

Scott


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721058
04/08/18 11:04 PM
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There's nothing like a late life crisis to put you on your rear end.


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: bbhero] #4721059
04/08/18 11:04 PM
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California's Wine Country
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Originally Posted By: bbhero
A very high percentage of men in my area who are 60 yes or older... Typically have "wives" who are 15-20 years younger than them. Quite a common phenomenon here. It is rather rare to see older men and women together.


For that to work these older guys must have lots of money. IMO, any 60 year old guy who believes marrying a 40 year old woman in a second marriage will work out is being naive. When he turns 70 and Viagra no longer works that 50 year old wife of his will be getting serviced elsewhere!

Scott


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: NormanBuntz] #4721061
04/08/18 11:05 PM
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California's Wine Country
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Originally Posted By: NormanBuntz
There's nothing like a late life crisis to put you on your rear end.


That's what I am seeing. It's not a tax dodge or a wish for a younger spouse. It's a train wreck.

Scott


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721067
04/08/18 11:20 PM
04/08/18 11:20 PM
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Virginia
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Amen to what you stated there sir!!

Spot on. Lots of these older guys do have a good amount of $$$. And you are right about the second part as well.


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721077
04/08/18 11:37 PM
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Monogamy is a joke.

Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721083
04/08/18 11:54 PM
04/08/18 11:54 PM
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Marshfield , MA
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all I know is that if my wife and I got divorced it would significantly lower our current standard of living.
Yah, thats been a big reason for us to stick together. A divorce aint worth it. Neither one of us wants to move. More practical to stay hitched. grin2


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Re: Baby boomers and late life divorce [Re: SLO_Town] #4721122
04/09/18 02:45 AM
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What is BIL & SIL... Tnx! smile


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