Originally Posted By: doitmyself
Originally Posted By: pandus13
Originally Posted By: Al
Old people have rights too. You and your wife have control over your family and. Your FIL and MIL have likewise control over themselves. I see no point to your question.
AL,
I consider you a really level-headed guy.
MIL is gone, many years ago.
I don't want to take control of anything for or from him.
I just want for him:
-a clean/functional/functioning place to leave
-good nutrition
-to make sure he takes his medication
-to make sure he does his health checkups with the family and specialist (cardiologist)
Seems that you had a similar situation not too long ago regarding elderly relatives, a car, and them providing childcare services (your kids), transportation to and from school, etc.. You struggled with that situation also.
The Lone Ranger has some excellent experienced-based advice above. No offense, but you seem not to accept that many elderly people operate on a completely different brain function level than what we consider normal. You throw out the idea that he comprehends the renovation of his home "on your dime", not acknowledging that he probably does NOT make the same connection that "normal" people do. These same difficulties were apparent on your other elderly relatives/car thread.
My suggestion is that you seek professional assistance for you to learn how to handle elderly adults. I get (some) of my advice from my nurse daughter who works with dementia patients and their families. Best of luck to you.
EDIT: agree that ecotourist is spot on.
Thank you for your take.
Now the car/kids/transport episode was a completely different guy/user: PandaBear.