This is what I do. I don't give cash to people. If they say they are hungry, I offer to buy them a meal or offer a gift card to a nearby fast food joint.
I don't want to directly support any habits/addictions they have.
I can count on one hand and have fingers left over the number who have taken a few gallons of gasoline when they beg in the circumstance described.
1. A soldier who was going home for emergency leave, I filled his tank.
2. A family in a minivan, filled the tank.
3. One other that just needed a few gallons to get home, gave him what he was seeking.
Ditto for meals, few take the offer of a meal or gift card.
I'm willing to help, I'm not willing to hand over cash that can be converted to the vice that may grip them.
Originally Posted By: yonyon
Originally Posted By: TTK
there is always this nagging feeling of what if this person was sincere and I didn't help them.
If the person were sincere they'd do better asking for what they actually need, not money to buy it with. If it really bothers you, offer to get them the thing they say they want your money for. They usually don't want it. I've only ever had two guys take me up on that offer.
I don't want to directly support any habits/addictions they have.
I can count on one hand and have fingers left over the number who have taken a few gallons of gasoline when they beg in the circumstance described.
1. A soldier who was going home for emergency leave, I filled his tank.
2. A family in a minivan, filled the tank.
3. One other that just needed a few gallons to get home, gave him what he was seeking.
Ditto for meals, few take the offer of a meal or gift card.
I'm willing to help, I'm not willing to hand over cash that can be converted to the vice that may grip them.
Originally Posted By: yonyon
Originally Posted By: TTK
there is always this nagging feeling of what if this person was sincere and I didn't help them.
If the person were sincere they'd do better asking for what they actually need, not money to buy it with. If it really bothers you, offer to get them the thing they say they want your money for. They usually don't want it. I've only ever had two guys take me up on that offer.