I'm also of the opinion that the recommendations against anti-seize are almost entirely liability.
If there's antisieze on the plug or in the engine, and it's overtightened, damaged, etc. it is easy to point to. Most likely result is over-torquing, plug breaking, and/or internal damage. The result is often immediately known, and bingo, faulty part and blame.
However, without anti-seize, then the blame is easier to be placed on the installer or the person removing it, who are often not the same person and maybe the car has different owners as well. Then, blame can go in any direction. A "time release" bomb so to speak, that doesn't present itself for 10 or more years when the stuck plug strips or breaks. Then, the makers will say you waited too long, or it was installed too tight, or any other excuse that severs liability from the makers.
Absent PROOF, I'm in the club that says to use a little anti-sieze on the thread, I used a toothbrush. This helps installation and extraction later. I don't see how it can be harmful if you don't overtighten, which I don't.