Great post XS650 and thanks for the link!
I used to have a Parker O-ring catalog that was great for looking up compatible chemicals in a situation like this. Unfortunately, that was ten years and several moves ago and I can find it and they don't have it online.
As XS650's link shows, there are lots of rubbers out there. If you know the specific type of rubber, you can look it up and see what is compatible. If you don't know the type used in an auto application, the silicone grease will be safe.
One of my favorites is either missing or listed with a chemical name instead of the duPont tradename, which is Viton. Army turboshaft engines use them for sealing off JP-8 (jet fuel) and 23699 (jet engine oil). It's good stuff.
Now to the question as to silicone with a silicone rubber and why it is actually intuitive why silicone oil would attack silicone rubber. Actually, I shouldn't say "attack," I should say dissolve. It's also easiest to dissolve a material in a like material.
For instance, petroleum grease doesn't dissolve in water. But it dissolves well in kerosene, which is a petroleum product.
Same with silicone oil and silicone rubber - the silicone rubber easily dissolves in the silicone oil because they are very similar. As XS650 pointed out, fluorosilicones are excepted from this example.
later,
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