Bubba: My budget is probably around $600 - $700
And yes, Thanks for your very detailed post. I read it, but didn't have time to write a peoper answer until today. (was at work, extra shifts, etc - cannot use bitog on work PCs)
I will probably want a pistol for now, as I intend to do a CC course and someday use it as a CC weapon. I don't feel comfortable, as a newb, to own a long gun/shot gun/rife at the moment. Perhaps something for later.
I will take your advice on a full size 9mm rather than a compact, and if I feel it is unsuitable for when I graduate to CC status, I will sell it and buy a different, more suitable CC gun.
I will start looking into full size 9mm guns. (thanks for the list of suggestions you provided)
And I do want (like you suggested) a gun with an accessory rail so I can mount a light and/or laser.
Training:
At first, I won't get EXTENSIVE training, as my "mentor" will be away most of the time, but I will have friends who will help with getting a decent amount of practice in the meantime, to familiarize myself with the gun I eventually buy.
When the SF mentor is back again, I will mention to him what you mentioned, about more extensive training and malfunction drills.
However, I will make sure that I get the dude to show me how to clear a jammed gun, etc.
Thanks again!