It depends on too many factors to really be able to record.
One thing you could do is factor in:
Pistol build material [polymer, steel, aluminum]
Cartridge pressure
Presence of ported barrel
Handgun size and barrel length
Generally, though, I've found that 9mm tends to be "snappy" while .45 is more of a blunt "push". I base this on the fact that .45 ACP cartridge pressures tend to be on the low side while 9mm and 40 SW and 357 SIG are near the high range for cartridge pressure. Factor in the weight of the projectile being expelled and you can roughly guess what the recoil would be like.
Richard Lee's reloading manual lists pressures for typical loads, which is a good place to start.