Moving forward, I have good news for you. You've busted off the factory filter, which has been Gorilla Glue'd on every new car I've ever had. You've got a good filter on there that requires no tools to remove next time. Now that you and your van have introduced yourselves to each other, that's a 15 minute oil change, tops. I prefer a cold oil change, for a number of reasons. One...you obviously don't burn yourself on any exhaust components or hot oil. But secondly...with the oil drain plug in the very rear of the oil sump like it is, and especially with 0W-20 oil, you're going to get every drop of oil out of that sump, whether you change it warm or cold. You might as well let everything drain from the upper nether regions of the engine first. Mine are easy, as I don't need ramps, but for your case, I'd just park it up on ramps and go do something else for a few hours and then come back to it. I think you kill a number of birds with that stone.
More good news. All Hondas use the same oil (easy!). All Hondas use the same filter (easy!). All Hondas use the same 17mm head on the drain plug (easy!). Both of your Hondas are 15 minute oil changes and, on top of that, they take the same oil and filter, so you don't even have to stock different materials. Maintaining one Honda is easy enough. Maintaining two is even easier.
As you own and service your vehicles for a while, I think you'll find most things on them to be very straight-forward (with the possible exception of the non-conventional hybrid stuff on your Accord). Batteries are easy to access and maintain. Coolant is easy to access and maintain. Your V-6 even has a very nice engine block drain petcock with a hose connection on it (think brake bleed valve in concept) so you can drain the block when you drain your radiator if you like. Brakes are conventional in design and are super easy to service. You can do nearly everything with just a small assortment of metric sockets (10, 13, 15, 17 are the most often used in my experience). It's almost as if they're designed with the DIYer in mind.
While I have to admit to never owning anything European, I've owned a lot of brands in my life. Buick, Cadillac, Chrysler, Dodge, Honda, Nissan, Saturn, and Toyota. Our Hondas have not been more difficult to service than those vehicles have been and, in many cases, I've found some very smart design touches in them.
They're not perfect, though. I wish they would have used adjustable rear upper control arms, so camber could be maintained as the springs settled. They didn't, and the aftermarket has stepped up and there are plenty of options for that. If you ever have to replace your rear stabilizer bar bushings, they're on TOP of the rear suspension subframe, and quite difficult to access. A bit of good news: our MDX and Ridgeline have the same design, and both are sporting the factory bushings (130k and 100k miles respectively), so they do appear to be durable. Outside of those two bits, however (one of which was easy to solve, and the other being a non-issue so far), I've found them to be very enjoyable to own over the long haul. We've owned our MDX for about 80k miles now. The Ridgeline is new to us, but shares some design elements with the MDX, so a lot of the same concepts apply to it, too.
Edit: one more issue I'd rather they not have...in some years in the mid-2000s, Honda was using a combination of materials in the transmission cooler fittings in the radiator that were prone to corrosion after so many miles or years. It'd be a "minor" issue, except that if the coolant and ATF mix, it sometimes means replacement or rebuild of the transmission, so it can be costly if you don't take care of it. Radiators are not expensive, and are easy to replace, and I sort of look at them like intake gaskets on a GM 3800. When you buy one of these vehicles used, you replace the parts for good measure and go on with your life. It's a problem I wish they didn't get themselves into, but they did. I think the design was changed in the 2008-2012 era, or somewhere in there, for many of them. Some never seemed to have been prone to it (like the CR-V or Accord radiators for instance).