Originally Posted By: chiks
Originally Posted By: OVERK1LL
Originally Posted By: chiks
This is not just a subject of bullying. We cannot lose sight of how shortsighted the kids are. I have never flashed or been photographed nude. What does one gain by posing in a nude photo?
THIS.
It doesn't matter what she did to get bullied. The bullying is still the issue. The fact it persisted after moving and changing schools...etc. She was stalked. When you are being perpetually bullied it is very easy to lose sight of the fact that you will eventually be out of that situation.
I sure hope you do not mean what you write here.
Because if you do, you are basically condoning the act of taking/allowing nude pictures by people who are not ready to accept the consequences arising out of such acts.
Is the bully at fault. YES.
Is Amanda at fault? YES YES.
Of course I meant what I wrote, if not, I wouldn't have written it
She was a very young girl, a CHILD. She did something that was stupid and she obviously regretted. But in no way did that render her deserving of what happened after. She didn't ASK to be stalked or bullied, haunted by her (quite mild in the big scheme of things) mistake.
She was exploited, her naivety was exploited, her being a CHILD was exploited. Let's not lose sight of that. I'm not condoning her taking her shirt off. I'm saying that the act was not an invitation to make her life a living [censored].
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Originally Posted By: OVERK1LL
I know a pile of people that were bullied. I was bullied, my sister was bullied. She beat somebody with a chair when she snapped. The Columbine kids went full postal and just mowed everybody down. I didn't snap, but I was pretty [censored] close, almost did some things I would have seriously regretted. But in the moment, they felt very appropriate to be entertaining. Stopping the problem, what you are willing to DO to stop the problem..... I never once considered myself the issue. I had done nothing wrong to be a target. I cannot at all relate to her inclination to suicide, but I certainly understand school shootings. I know full well why they happen. I'm actually surprised we don't have more of them.
I was bullied too. Flew under the radar and stayed away from those idiots until I got the smarts to take them down intelligently. Now in professional life over so many years, nobody dares to bully me because I display the self confidence that deters bullies. In the event one does do so, I bit back like a scorpion. They do not even know what hit them. Interestingly one of them was a former boss of mine.
I was never bullied before or since High School. I have pretty high self esteem and am a very confident person. That didn't stop a particular crowd in HS from picking on me however.
I will add that I moved from a good sized town of 100K people to a small town of 5K people for the grade 10 school year, 1500Km away from where I grew up. That was when the misery started. My first year of HS, which was grade 9 in my home town, was perfectly civil. And in a much better school.