I'll answer a couple of questions, I didn't expect so many responses so fast.
The car has 135K miles on it. It has almost no city miles (I have no city). Most of the miles are highway, as much as possible in the mountains with or without a trailer. Some of the miles are from track days. At 80mph in top gear it is just over 3K, the engine rarely sees anything below that if I am moving. This cars sole purpose for me is for fun (even though it is too heavy, too soft, too slow and has poor brakes). For slow/local trips with wife/kids I use the FX...Which is also too heavy/slow and of weak brakes. It is not too soft though.
No fuel additives, only 93 Chevron or Mobil (they are near my house). There is a warning label not to use anything other than premium fuel - if you do, only enough to get you to another station. Any deposits are a result of Chevron/Mobil 93 and Mobil 1 0w40 that sneaks through.
Colder plugs are due to pinging - it helps a little, the owners manual recommends one range cooler if it will see high speeds and minimal idle time.
The plug box says not to gap, that it will damage the electrode. The paperwork that comes in the box says if you gap them, the electrode will snap, so I don't.
All six plugs look virtually identical, they each have their own coil (coil over plug) so I doubt it is wasted spark - but it could be. I bought this car new, every plug that has come out of it has looked about the same. Typically I run 45K, this time I ran 40K because I was due for an oil change, PCV valve, an evap valve and another set of belts anyway. Might as well do it all at once.
These are NGK LFR6AIX-11 'Laser' Iridium plugs.
I do need a tune. The car runs rich 100% of the time. Spending time and money on the dyno are not high on my list of priorities right now.