I was in this boat in January of 2020, when we took in 3 foster kids, and also have a 15 year old at home.
I test drove 2 Hondas and a Toyota before settling in on a 2014 Chrysler Town and Country.
The Hondas had double the mileage and less options, but drove great.
The Toyota I would have bought, but it was so scratched up I couldn’t bear looking at it, and it smelled of cultural food.
The T&C is a Limited-L that is fully loaded with an entertainment unit. It had 60k miles and cost a shade less than the Toyota or Hondas.
I put about $1000 in repairs to fix the airbag wiring issues and the blind spot sensors. I regularly wish I hadn’t bought the van, 2 years later, but can’t complain overall. It’s been a decent vehicle. I discovered later that summer after the purchase that the previous owner lived on gravel and seemed to beat the hell out of the van. It’s tough to find that type of stuff when it’s 4 degrees outside.
Our next van will probably be a newer Chrysler as well, because I always say I won’t, and then do it anyway due to price and options (though technically the 2012 I had was wearing a Volkswagen badge). This is my 4th Chrysler van since 1998.