Hasn't Bill Gates put millions into philanthropy? He may not have been the best husband but I don't think he gets lumped in with Jobs. Jobs was a monster.
I guess one of the deals with Jobs was that he was really stingy with his philanthropy and known for being really nasty towards people he didn't know. And even to people he did know. He was definitely wired differently.
I remember reading about someone who wrote a regular column in a local news website. I won't get into the topic of the column (it was tech plus something else I won't mention directly), but she was an Apple fan and I think covered Macworld Expo one year. She saw Jobs just standing some place and trying saying hi to him and he just went off on her then turned away.