Be honest.
If you don't want kids, be honest and say you don't want kids and how likely you are to change your mind.
If she does and you don't, it's not fair to her to give her any other impression.
I've forced the issue, as the best $100 co-pay I've ever spent was for the vasectomy. Of course my bride to be knew that going in and was on the same page with me.
If this is a deal breaker, the news doesn't get any better with age.
Be forthcoming ASAP.
Originally Posted By: ryan2022
Hi guys,
This is a left fielder and a bit personal.
I'm 39, and my wife to be is 33. I've been married previously for 14 years and am back on my feet.
We've been together for two years and shes amazing.
I'm tired...and dealt with fertility struggles in my previous marriage
At 39 my energy levels are fairly low due to occasional struggles with depression.
I love kids, and relate well to them but feel like this ship may have sailed.
She has a wonderful, very functional family with a couple of amazing nephews.
Saying no firmly may be the safest move given the above circumstances....but will most likely end things or leave her resentful.
Life is good right now. Challenging enough with a career change and helping out my folks.
I feel like I've answered my own question, but anyone have any Insight?
In addition....shes a family doctor, so money wouldn't be as much of a struggle. But money cant buy energy...peace and quiet...or a vasectomy reversal...oh wait...that it can.
Thoughts?
If you don't want kids, be honest and say you don't want kids and how likely you are to change your mind.
If she does and you don't, it's not fair to her to give her any other impression.
I've forced the issue, as the best $100 co-pay I've ever spent was for the vasectomy. Of course my bride to be knew that going in and was on the same page with me.
If this is a deal breaker, the news doesn't get any better with age.
Be forthcoming ASAP.
Originally Posted By: ryan2022
Hi guys,
This is a left fielder and a bit personal.
I'm 39, and my wife to be is 33. I've been married previously for 14 years and am back on my feet.
We've been together for two years and shes amazing.
I'm tired...and dealt with fertility struggles in my previous marriage
At 39 my energy levels are fairly low due to occasional struggles with depression.
I love kids, and relate well to them but feel like this ship may have sailed.
She has a wonderful, very functional family with a couple of amazing nephews.
Saying no firmly may be the safest move given the above circumstances....but will most likely end things or leave her resentful.
Life is good right now. Challenging enough with a career change and helping out my folks.
I feel like I've answered my own question, but anyone have any Insight?
In addition....shes a family doctor, so money wouldn't be as much of a struggle. But money cant buy energy...peace and quiet...or a vasectomy reversal...oh wait...that it can.
Thoughts?