wife left her gmail open on firefox

[Cutehumor]

First, I must say I have been with my wife a total of 7 yrs 9 months. Married for 1 yr 8 months. We never fight and I love her dearly, but tonight she left the pc on with firefox with three tabs open. She was looking at another page and probably forgot she left her gmail open logged in. Well, I couldn't resist and I looked at her email. What I found was several emails for the past two years to her best friend saying

"My husband is an idiot sometimes"
She referred to my valentine's present to her, she didn't like the candy I gave her.

"Ummm, Michael just called me from Wal-Mart in Memphis to ask me where the gift cards are. Wouldn't it make more sense to ask someone who works there or at least lives in that city? Aparently stupidity runs in the household there."

She should know, she's a shop till you drop gal. The stupidity part I believe she's referring to my mentally retarded sister and my father who has dementia from several strokes.

I'm not sure if I should bring this up to her. It did bring a tear to my eye when I read these things. I may just let it blow over, however I'm not done reading her emails. She has over 500 emails in her inbox dating back to early 2005!

 

[Shannow]

Probably just "talking it up" to her buddies.

Don't know how I'd handle it

 

[Cutehumor]

what bothers me the most is in her emails to her best friend, who was her maid of honor, the only time she talks to her about me is when she's complaining about me. nothing good about me so far.

 

[Shannow]

Ever sat and listened to a gaggle of women talking about their sig others over lunch ?

It's not a pretty sight

 

[Cutehumor]

She's good at hiding her distaste as I can see. She apparently hates my oldest sister for wanting to be a bridesmaid in our wedding.

"I ended up having to ask his sisters, which pretty much turned into immediate regret. I am
really disliking his older sister, she can be a real cow. I don't really want her in the wedding in the first place"

This email from 2.5 years ago

 

[Cutehumor]

I've actually not been privy to women talk about their significant others. I never had many female friends sad to say. I just dated alot. It's amazing what I'm learning in these emails, it's like her inner thoughts. Like I'm reading her diary.

 

[Vilan]

Snooping may be interesting, but you're opening Pandora's (Gmail) Box. Once you snoop, you can't unsnoop. Are you sure you want to know? You may end up taking things more seriously than she intended when she wrote them.

You might also consider whether she might take a peek at BITOG one night when *you* forget to log off and find this thread.

And why DID you call from the Wal-Mart in Memphis?

 

[Cutehumor]

I've stumbled upon a ton of emails from my mother in law to my wife now

 

[Cutehumor]

It is kinda tricky though to be snoopy because she has alot of emails from people that are not read that I want to read so bad.

 

[Shannow]

we had a manager at work who would read his e-mails, and then mark them as unread. That way he had "plausible deniability" when we came asking.

Vilan has a good point.

 

[Cutehumor]

apparently, she dislikes both of my sisters.

"Maybe I can do it Friday morning, but I don't think you or Rachel will be there Friday morning, so I guess that doesn't qualify as any sort of bachelorette party if I'm by myself. Then there's Michael's sisters, who basically I don't want anywhere near me during any sort of bachelorette function. (I know, I'm going to ----, but they annoy the ---- out of me.)"

 

[Cutehumor]

I'm on a short time line though, I can't leave it open when she wakes up to go to school this morning, she'll realize it was open for me to read all night. but I have to read as much as I can before I turn off the pc for the night. I won't get this chance ever again.

 

[Cutehumor]

maybe I shouldn't take this personally, eh?

"Ack, this is me crying. I just typed you a very nice email and Gmail ate it. Ok, gmail didn't eat it, I pushed the wrong button. I had some very funny bits in there too. I am very sad. And now it is late and I have to get up early tomorrow and lie to my boss. (It was all in the email.) Darn it. I had a very funny bit about squirrels in there. I made *myself* laugh. Twice. Out loud. And I'm so stressed I could keel over at any minute, so I'm convinced you would have at least giggled. I could type it again, but it's not going to be the same, the moment has passed. Now I'm depressed. Perhaps I could try again tomorrow. Perhaps I really pushed send and you'll get the original email with all the lying and the squirrels and the part where I said "Boys are dumb, I can't believe I'm marrying one". "

 

[Cutehumor]

well I went through most of her emails, my in laws didn't say anything bad about me, in fact my father in law paid me a complement something to the effect of "the more I'm around michael, the more I'm impressed by him" when talking about when I bought my new car last year. What I learned was my wife thinks I do stupid stuff and she despises my sisters which is news to me. One of the idiot things she refers to is having 100 bottles of oil in the 2nd bedroom and being possibly burned alive from the oil if our apartment caught on fire. I can't be that stupid, I have 2 college degrees, right?

 

[Pablo]

Maybe she has a point.

Stop reading her email.

The best you can do at this point is use this to find out why you two aren't communicating better. In a discreet intelligent way, of course.

I'm pretty good. My wife calls me lazy and an idiot to my face.

 

[refaller]

I agree with everyone- stop reading. I hear many women talk about their husbands to each other and it is never nice. I figure they are just venting. I know if my wife did something stupid, I wouldn't tell her. However, if it was funny enough I would tell others. Has no impact on my love, devotion, or commitment to her. I am sure her sister hears all about my faults. I would just chalk it up to her venting and move on.

ref

 

[ToyotaNSaturn]

CH, would you read her diary?

Remember the tree of knowledge was NOT for us to partake in. The apple you were tempted with...well...did it taste good?

Now that temptation has gotten the best of you, you can not EVER talk to her about it. Much like the pastor who decided to ditch church and call in "sick" to the golf course. Where he proceeded to hit 18 hole-in-ones! It's a great feat, but who is he going to tell??

You're a smart guy, no doubt! However, you've run directly into the girl "smack" talk that can be destructive. IMO, people shouldn't talk about each other (especially our own spouses!) like that, BUT....we can't control them. Obviously she respects you enough to NOT tell you about her pressure-relief valve (her emails) as per your initial post.

Consider this a speed bump down the road of life and fahhhgetettaboutit.

One last question: did she talk about your obsession with oil in any of her emails?

 

[oilyriser]

Stay tuned for Google People Track - the service that correlates Gmail messages to UBBthreads postings...

At least there's no mention of killing or maiming.

 

[doctorr]

Jeebers! You got off easy!

So she dislikes some of the inlaws, and jokes about how stupid you can be - that is like "Level 1" on the open-ended "Email Things I Didn't Want To Find" scale!!

Think of all the stuff that COULD have been in there...(aaargh!)

She's not rhapsodizing to her friends about the guy she meets at the motel on the highway.....

She isn't talking about how much she misses her 'ex' and how the whole marriage was a huge mistake.....

I could go on all day, but the lesson is that you snooped on personal correspondence, and found (virtually) nothing - as we say here "Suck it up, Princess".

I have been happily married for 30 years (that's 100 in Husband Years!) and trust me, if that is her only regret one year in, you are golden!
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[sciphi]

+1 to stopping snooping and getting on with life. I'm sure my girlfriend has some not-so-flattering things emailed to people about me. It's not terribly bothersome, as both of us have annoyed the other from time to time. We need to get rid of it, and email or instant messenger is often the medium of the moment.