Have you ever been in a situation with a friend/acquaintance where they've done something deliberately that they knew irked/insulted you, yet they continue to do so?
Recently I've cut ties with a "friend" I've had for over 10 years. We became friends as co-workers and after I left that city we remained in contact.
Over the years he'd jokingly use a derogatory racial term directed at me. I let him know that I don't appreciate the term, despite how "popular" it might seem.
Recently he did it again and after correcting him again I decided that I'd finally had enough. I told him that I don't understand why he feels the "need" to use this term toward me. He apologized, but I really don't see the need to salvage any sort of relationship with him. The few times I needed assistance with being stranded/assistance with moving etc and he was always "too busy" or ended up half-assing things to the point of being more of a disturbance.
As a result I decided to delete the app I was using to contact him with (he was the only person I used it for) and delete his number (as well as block it, as he seems to not get the hint that I'm impartial to our relationship).
I'm at a point in my life where I don't feel I should have to tolerate being addressed in this demeaning way, especially since I don't address him (or anyone else) in that manner.
Just needed to vent my thoughts.
Recently I've cut ties with a "friend" I've had for over 10 years. We became friends as co-workers and after I left that city we remained in contact.
Over the years he'd jokingly use a derogatory racial term directed at me. I let him know that I don't appreciate the term, despite how "popular" it might seem.
Recently he did it again and after correcting him again I decided that I'd finally had enough. I told him that I don't understand why he feels the "need" to use this term toward me. He apologized, but I really don't see the need to salvage any sort of relationship with him. The few times I needed assistance with being stranded/assistance with moving etc and he was always "too busy" or ended up half-assing things to the point of being more of a disturbance.
As a result I decided to delete the app I was using to contact him with (he was the only person I used it for) and delete his number (as well as block it, as he seems to not get the hint that I'm impartial to our relationship).
I'm at a point in my life where I don't feel I should have to tolerate being addressed in this demeaning way, especially since I don't address him (or anyone else) in that manner.
Just needed to vent my thoughts.