I live in Topeka, and drive just 2-3 miles to the Statehouse where I work. I do feel like I'm abusing the car. During the winter, I try to make the 25 mile drive (highway miles) to Lawrence. Just makes me feel better, that the car is getting some miles and at least warming up enough. I do have a transmission cooler on my car, so I almost feel the transmission is getting treated worse than the engine for the short drives.
I use PYB 5W20 with Purolator PureOne. OCI 3k in winter, 5k in summer.