I currenly work for a major railroad. In order to be promoted in the company, you must move to a new location geograhically. I live in Birmingham, AL, and am concerned about putting my family through the difficult process of relocation every 5-10 years. I have a son who is 4 and am worried about him having to move especially? My wife and I could adapt anywhere, but I am worried that there may be unforseen problems. For those who have companies that love to move you, are my concerns about family justified? The money will be good, but in the end is worth it?
Should I move in order to move up in company?
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Let me add this, once I make the first move from the union side to management there will be several moves every 5-10 years or so. This will be an ongoing process as my career advances. Middle school and high school moves will happen also. Also, as a side note, do people who are raised in the South seem to not want to leave as maybe others from different regions?
We have never moved. But my daughter has moved several times since her kids were born. They are now 6, 8, and 10. The moves really helped the kids. They have become very adaptive and are not the least bit shy. If anything it probably will benefit the child...from what I have seen.
Are you a blue collar guy, or a white collar guy ??
Do you and your family look at moving as an exciting opportunity, or a pain in the arse ??
Money is important but it isn't everything, you may have to have a family meeting and define your priorities. Good luck.
P.B.
Do you and your family look at moving as an exciting opportunity, or a pain in the arse ??
Money is important but it isn't everything, you may have to have a family meeting and define your priorities. Good luck.
P.B.
We moved,
1994, TN to Germany she was in Kindergarten
1996, Germany to Alabama (she was in 1st and 2nd grade
1999 3-4th
2001 5-6
2004 6-8th
My daughter was born 1992 and has moved 5 times in her life. She gets along just fine, makes friends everywhere she goes, she adjusts to different cultures and adjusts really well.
Do yourself and your family a favor, move every couple of years.
PS, it's also a great time to get rid of a lot of Junk.
When I graduated college with a Bachelor's degree in ChemE from UAH, I was told that moving would be required as the company would demand it. I didn't bite. I have had to work a couple of jobs that I didn't care for a lot, but now I am working at a job that I love and for a great company all in the same general location. I understand that not everyone is so fortunate to have a good area like this. I personally wouldn't move just to move up in a company. My family (including parents, grandparents & in-laws) come before a company, any company.
Edit - I guess it doesn't like the abbreviation for bachelor's.
Edit - I guess it doesn't like the abbreviation for bachelor's.
To move or not is not the question, really. The first question is which way do you want your life to go. Management seems OK on the outside, but it sucks from the inside. I know nothing of the RR or situation so that's up to you.
If you decide to move - the thing I want to stress is the quality of the move. If you can do it at leisure then go for it. Take your time.
Our last move was absolutely the worst, We had to RUSH every step. I mean we moved in the weekend school started, the house is not ideal but we got an OK price in the middle of the Seattle land grab (only two houses for sale when we bought - up $100K since we bought)......you get the picture.
If you decide to move - the thing I want to stress is the quality of the move. If you can do it at leisure then go for it. Take your time.
Our last move was absolutely the worst, We had to RUSH every step. I mean we moved in the weekend school started, the house is not ideal but we got an OK price in the middle of the Seattle land grab (only two houses for sale when we bought - up $100K since we bought)......you get the picture.
I moved at 3, 5, 7, 12, 15, and then 18(when I went to uni), 21, and 23.
It's got good points and bad points.
Personally, I think if you are entering a stage of your career where moving is mandatory, a first move before school is probably the best.
It's got good points and bad points.
Personally, I think if you are entering a stage of your career where moving is mandatory, a first move before school is probably the best.
gulledge, your concerns are justified. I quit a position (which to many in my field was extremely desirable) for my family.
Years later, I can now say one of the best decisions in my life. But, in your case
Maybe, the right decision is to take the chance! A mom and dad who are happy and a good team would be more important.
Good-luck
Years later, I can now say one of the best decisions in my life. But, in your case
Good-luck
Several studies done.... a Web search may lead you to the result(s).
Males only. If I recal it was around the ages of 8 to 10.
Moving CAN cause problems in the male child.
May be truth in that..... we moved several times when I was that age. You don't want yer' male kid (or girl kid, either) to turn out as I did.
Of course, awareness of potential problems can allow one to take corrective actions.
Those studies may not have been accurate (yes, I really did read a couple and saw reference to other similar studies) and a supportive family should minimize or alleviate any possible problems.
Just sumpthin' to be aware of.
Thought it was interesting that the study found the problems in SOME male kidlets but females seem to be immune.
Males only. If I recal it was around the ages of 8 to 10.
Moving CAN cause problems in the male child.
May be truth in that..... we moved several times when I was that age. You don't want yer' male kid (or girl kid, either) to turn out as I did.
Of course, awareness of potential problems can allow one to take corrective actions.
Those studies may not have been accurate (yes, I really did read a couple and saw reference to other similar studies) and a supportive family should minimize or alleviate any possible problems.
Just sumpthin' to be aware of.
Thought it was interesting that the study found the problems in SOME male kidlets but females seem to be immune.
Why the male effect, oh obbop?
My daughters have had some moving issues, fwiw.
My daughters have had some moving issues, fwiw.
Why are you asking us? Talk to the Ms. She is one you have to worry about.
we moved when I was 15, and I hated it. My mother moved probably 10 times during her childhood, and I don't think it was that bad for her. Get the child started on it and let him or her know that it will be coming.
we moved when I was 15, and I hated it. My mother moved probably 10 times during her childhood, and I don't think it was that bad for her. Get the child started on it and let him or her know that it will be coming.
I've moved 8 times by now, the 9th time is coming up:
1992
1994
1997
1998
1999 twice
2003
2005
2007
The first move was when I was 18. Honestly, I think the whole move thing depends on your character. I am the type of person that hates change and dreads every move, even though I don't have a family. It would be so much more difficult if kids were involved. Also, if I was a kid, I'd hate to move, but after an n-th move, I guess you start getting used to it.
I'm an introvert, and for me personally, it takes a long time and effort to make friends, and because I've moved so frequently, I basically have very few of them now. For others making friends is quick and easy and they'll make friends everywhere they go, so the more times they move, the more friends they'll have.
I agree with Pablo though about trying to decide where you want your life to go first.
1992
1994
1997
1998
1999 twice
2003
2005
2007
The first move was when I was 18. Honestly, I think the whole move thing depends on your character. I am the type of person that hates change and dreads every move, even though I don't have a family. It would be so much more difficult if kids were involved. Also, if I was a kid, I'd hate to move, but after an n-th move, I guess you start getting used to it.
I'm an introvert, and for me personally, it takes a long time and effort to make friends, and because I've moved so frequently, I basically have very few of them now. For others making friends is quick and easy and they'll make friends everywhere they go, so the more times they move, the more friends they'll have.
I agree with Pablo though about trying to decide where you want your life to go first.
Suddenly I realize I'm very much like Quattro Pete.
He's dead nuts on with the friends part. I'm the same way.
18 yo Entire life until 1976. Never moved.
Late 70's college dorms and apts and home with peeps
Early 80's a bunch of apts
1985 first house
1988
1992
2000
2005
You sort of get used to your stuff getting beat from moving it or realize you only spend big money on great tools. Furniture and stuff is expendable.
He's dead nuts on with the friends part. I'm the same way.
18 yo Entire life until 1976. Never moved.
Late 70's college dorms and apts and home with peeps
Early 80's a bunch of apts
1985 first house
1988
1992
2000
2005
You sort of get used to your stuff getting beat from moving it or realize you only spend big money on great tools. Furniture and stuff is expendable.
This is a decision and a discussion to make with your family.
What do they think about it?
It doesn't matter what we think, what do they think and/or want?
What do they think about it?
It doesn't matter what we think, what do they think and/or want?
At the end of life, the time I can spend with my family (extended) means more to me than money.
I chose not to move 13 years ago. I was there with my mother when she died. I was around to help those who needed my help. I was there to support those who needed my support. Thay were there to help and support me when I needed it.
This is just my philosophy. I just think it needs to be considered when making quality of life decisions.
Best of luck to you in any case. Life's crossroads are not easy.
I chose not to move 13 years ago. I was there with my mother when she died. I was around to help those who needed my help. I was there to support those who needed my support. Thay were there to help and support me when I needed it.
This is just my philosophy. I just think it needs to be considered when making quality of life decisions.
Best of luck to you in any case. Life's crossroads are not easy.
Pablo and Pete,
I get the same vibe also. Maybe two or three people that I'd call true friends, and that seems to be part of a continuum as I move, rather than having been friends forever.
I work with people nearing retirement who went to kindergarden together, and it's truly an alien thing to see from my perspective.
Groucho,
I've had a lot of offers recently of quite a bit more money to move further North (already 4 hours North of my Parents and Brother and Sister, 12 hours North of my nearest cousin/aunty/uncle).
I've decided that any future move is closer to family, not further.
I get the same vibe also. Maybe two or three people that I'd call true friends, and that seems to be part of a continuum as I move, rather than having been friends forever.
I work with people nearing retirement who went to kindergarden together, and it's truly an alien thing to see from my perspective.
Groucho,
I've had a lot of offers recently of quite a bit more money to move further North (already 4 hours North of my Parents and Brother and Sister, 12 hours North of my nearest cousin/aunty/uncle).
I've decided that any future move is closer to family, not further.
I doubt you'll regret the choice, Shannow.
Again, JMO.
Again, JMO.
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