What is the reason people feel the need to stop riding and get rid of the bike when marriage/babys happen? Financial,told to by the missus,or scared of dying? I have never seen any as a reason to give up a motorcycle.
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I stopped riding for a while so I could help out and spend time with my 9 lb 6 oz crying, poop machine.My wife was at home full time and was almost to the point of not talking anything but baby talk.After all we had kids because we wanted them, so putting my toy away for a while was the grownup thing to do. You only get then that small once in their life ,so if your not there you'll miss it.,,
I never equated the two together, personally. I feel less safe in my CRX than I do on the bike.
I never had the choice to make, fortunately. I sold the Harley one early spring when I didn't feel like riding that year. I regret it. It was a big pig, but it was my pig. I took the money and got the Z28 I enjoy so much now.
Wife wanted to learn to ride so I had to go out and get two bikes and fix them up. The KZ1100 is less of a handful than the Electraglide, but it had bags. I miss bags and storage.
I met Wife and her daughter after I had the Harley. We were watching TV one night when the people on TV were going through the "we're a family now, sell your bike" thing. Daughter asked Mom if she was going to ask me to sell my bike. She said, "Why would I want to do that? It's his to do with as he pleases." She's a great wife. She even believes I need bigger tires for the truck. Whattawoman!
If you don't feel safe on the bike then maybe you should sell it. But it would be a cool thing for a little kid to enjoy with you later on. My son and daughter always had great fun on the bike. You may reget selling it, if you do. But, there are always more to choose from when you decide to get back into it. Better ones.
Good luck with your young'un(s).
I never had the choice to make, fortunately. I sold the Harley one early spring when I didn't feel like riding that year. I regret it. It was a big pig, but it was my pig. I took the money and got the Z28 I enjoy so much now.
Wife wanted to learn to ride so I had to go out and get two bikes and fix them up. The KZ1100 is less of a handful than the Electraglide, but it had bags. I miss bags and storage.
I met Wife and her daughter after I had the Harley. We were watching TV one night when the people on TV were going through the "we're a family now, sell your bike" thing. Daughter asked Mom if she was going to ask me to sell my bike. She said, "Why would I want to do that? It's his to do with as he pleases." She's a great wife. She even believes I need bigger tires for the truck. Whattawoman!
If you don't feel safe on the bike then maybe you should sell it. But it would be a cool thing for a little kid to enjoy with you later on. My son and daughter always had great fun on the bike. You may reget selling it, if you do. But, there are always more to choose from when you decide to get back into it. Better ones.
Good luck with your young'un(s).
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I would not sell mine if I got into that situation. Heck is just one more escape vehicle once the kid hits the terrible twos.
When my 1st daughter was 3 weeks old I bought a trials bike,and rode a trial every 2nd weekend...wife and baby came to every trial I rode for 4 years.At the same time my wife was a 3 year course,2 night school classes a week and one weekend a month,I looked after my daughter every one of those classes.I've spent a lot of time with my kids,and still had time to ride road bikes,trials,and race dirt track.My wife used to ride (my current bike was hers) and was involved in all my riding,I have supported her in all she does...it's all about sharing.
Just came back from a 300km ride....my wife,kids,granddaughter say hi when I come back from a ride,just like I walked in from another room.
Just came back from a 300km ride....my wife,kids,granddaughter say hi when I come back from a ride,just like I walked in from another room.
I am sure when you asked opinions on to sell or not half of decision was already made to sell for whatever the reason(s).
Listening to your heart/wisdom is what you ought to do as in this case to sell. If miss riding buy another. After all life is all about choices we make. If you feel dangered or insecure riding the bike is a very valid reason to stop riding.
Listening to your heart/wisdom is what you ought to do as in this case to sell. If miss riding buy another. After all life is all about choices we make. If you feel dangered or insecure riding the bike is a very valid reason to stop riding.
Originally Posted By: boraticus
Unless the ownership of the motorcycle will have a serious financial drain on the family's account, why would you quit riding?
Sure riding has inherent dangers but so does driving a four wheeled vehicle. If safety is your concern, that's understandable. However, the danger associated with motorcycling can be mitigated by where, when and how you ride. Stay away from busy areas, chose your riding time to avoid people rushing to their destinations, stay alert and treat intersections like the danger zones they are.
As the child get's older, involve him/her into the hobby. If they enjoy it (most do) you'll be raising the next generation of motorcyclists.
+1 ive goten faster since the birth of my son. and my machines are paid off, I cant see myself selling off my bikes if they are not a burden on the family. If i chose not to ride for awile i can always throw covers on the bikes and store em. i do plan to buy my boy a yamaha pw50 if the bug strikes him i will support it and help nurture a strong motorcyclist. If he shows little intrest thats OK too.
Unless the ownership of the motorcycle will have a serious financial drain on the family's account, why would you quit riding?
Sure riding has inherent dangers but so does driving a four wheeled vehicle. If safety is your concern, that's understandable. However, the danger associated with motorcycling can be mitigated by where, when and how you ride. Stay away from busy areas, chose your riding time to avoid people rushing to their destinations, stay alert and treat intersections like the danger zones they are.
As the child get's older, involve him/her into the hobby. If they enjoy it (most do) you'll be raising the next generation of motorcyclists.
+1 ive goten faster since the birth of my son. and my machines are paid off, I cant see myself selling off my bikes if they are not a burden on the family. If i chose not to ride for awile i can always throw covers on the bikes and store em. i do plan to buy my boy a yamaha pw50 if the bug strikes him i will support it and help nurture a strong motorcyclist. If he shows little intrest thats OK too.
Well, so far the fates are keeping the bike with me. I'm surprised because I haven't gotten even one email from my Craigslist posting. Usually the stuff I post on there is gone in a week or so and I would say this bike is the best thing I've ever posted on there.
I'm assuming the economy has something to do with it. I don't think as many people are willing to extend themselves financially right now.
Oh well, maybe I'll get to keep it afterall!
I'm assuming the economy has something to do with it. I don't think as many people are willing to extend themselves financially right now.
Oh well, maybe I'll get to keep it afterall!
I started riding when my first kid was a year old, but just commuting to work and other errands I do anyway. A weird but IMO legit part of it is trying to save some of the world's oil for him to use when he's 16.
If your point of riding is to hang with your childless buds on weekends... that's rather a waste of time, and selfish as you can't involve the rest of your family.
If your point of riding is to hang with your childless buds on weekends... that's rather a waste of time, and selfish as you can't involve the rest of your family.
That's what a motorcycle is for! To get away from your family. To retain/regain one's sanity!
Originally Posted By: Redline955
That's what a motorcycle is for! To get away from your family. To retain/regain one's sanity!
Well.....That would depend on one's family.
I can see going for a ride to take a bit of break, but nothing pleases me more than seeing the smile on a kid's face after taking them for a ride on a motorcycle or ATV.
I recall taking my eight year old nephew for a 30 mile ride on my Suzuki PE175 Enduro. We were at camp and had to make a run up to a remote resort for a few groceries. I sat him on the seat in front of me between my arms and he held onto the cross bar gusset on the handle bar. The ride was all gravel and twisty with plenty of big hills so the PE was being wound out pretty good most of the ride to get up the hills. When we got to the store, I lifted him off the bike and put him on the ground. He stood there with his arms stretched out in front of him like a zombie. He looked up at me and said "I can't feel my hands and I can't put my arms down." I couldn't help but laugh as we walked into the store with his arms still outstretched. The curious looks from the people in the store had me laughing but the kid wasn't so amused.
It was hilarious to me but the kid was actually worried that he was paralyzed or something. I told him to shake his hands and arms around a bit and, he'd get the feelings back in a few minutes. Then I explained how the vibrations had caused his condition.
For the trip back, I wrapped a rag around the cross bar for him and told him not to hold on so tight. When we got back to camp he didn't have the same effects but was all excited and ran into the camp to tell his aunt about his "zombie" episode.
Sorry for going off topic.
That's what a motorcycle is for! To get away from your family. To retain/regain one's sanity!
Well.....That would depend on one's family.
I can see going for a ride to take a bit of break, but nothing pleases me more than seeing the smile on a kid's face after taking them for a ride on a motorcycle or ATV.
I recall taking my eight year old nephew for a 30 mile ride on my Suzuki PE175 Enduro. We were at camp and had to make a run up to a remote resort for a few groceries. I sat him on the seat in front of me between my arms and he held onto the cross bar gusset on the handle bar. The ride was all gravel and twisty with plenty of big hills so the PE was being wound out pretty good most of the ride to get up the hills. When we got to the store, I lifted him off the bike and put him on the ground. He stood there with his arms stretched out in front of him like a zombie. He looked up at me and said "I can't feel my hands and I can't put my arms down." I couldn't help but laugh as we walked into the store with his arms still outstretched. The curious looks from the people in the store had me laughing but the kid wasn't so amused.
It was hilarious to me but the kid was actually worried that he was paralyzed or something. I told him to shake his hands and arms around a bit and, he'd get the feelings back in a few minutes. Then I explained how the vibrations had caused his condition.
For the trip back, I wrapped a rag around the cross bar for him and told him not to hold on so tight. When we got back to camp he didn't have the same effects but was all excited and ran into the camp to tell his aunt about his "zombie" episode.
Sorry for going off topic.
oh well, you asked for opinions...
I sold all my bikes and my "hot" cars/trucks when my second child was on the way.
I made life style changes, too. Wanted to be a good Father.
Didn't see how I could be a good one taking unneeded risks.
I sold all my bikes and my "hot" cars/trucks when my second child was on the way.
I made life style changes, too. Wanted to be a good Father.
Didn't see how I could be a good one taking unneeded risks.
I do appreciate all the replies. If the bike does sell, I'll be ok with it. I don't need an escape from my family and I don't feel like I'm sacrificing any part of myself just by selling the bike. Riding is something fun that is purely optional.
By contrast, if you told me I could no longer work out- I would throw a massive rebellion and do whatever I could to keep that aspect of my life intact. The motorcycle, by contrast, is fun but is in no way important enough to compete with spending time with my family.
But like I said, this all seems to be a futile conversation anyway because the bike isn't sold. When I sold my SV a few years ago, that thing was gone in about two weeks. I think the economy is really hitting people hard.
By contrast, if you told me I could no longer work out- I would throw a massive rebellion and do whatever I could to keep that aspect of my life intact. The motorcycle, by contrast, is fun but is in no way important enough to compete with spending time with my family.
But like I said, this all seems to be a futile conversation anyway because the bike isn't sold. When I sold my SV a few years ago, that thing was gone in about two weeks. I think the economy is really hitting people hard.
Said with HUMOR: I think I'd trade my first born for a new bike if I could find a taker.
If you can afford the bike with the newborn....keep it. May be tougher to get one later on.
My wife has finally consented to allow my soon to be 12 year old son to ride with me on my motorcycle so that means more riding this summer!
He has Asperger's Disorder and that, along with what my wife feels his deceased birth mother would say about it, has prevented me from riding him anywhere except around the yard.
Keep it if you can.
My wife has finally consented to allow my soon to be 12 year old son to ride with me on my motorcycle so that means more riding this summer!
He has Asperger's Disorder and that, along with what my wife feels his deceased birth mother would say about it, has prevented me from riding him anywhere except around the yard.
Keep it if you can.
That's cool you're going to get to take your son now...I'm sure he will LOVE that. That is definetly a positive of having and keeping your own things you love to do. Kids love to be included in things like that and it can be a real bonding experience.
Originally Posted By: ddrumman2004
If you can afford the bike with the newborn....keep it. May be tougher to get one later on.
My wife has finally consented to allow my soon to be 12 year old son to ride with me on my motorcycle so that means more riding this summer!
He has Asperger's Disorder and that, along with what my wife feels his deceased birth mother would say about it, has prevented me from riding him anywhere except around the yard.
Keep it if you can.
Originally Posted By: ddrumman2004
If you can afford the bike with the newborn....keep it. May be tougher to get one later on.
My wife has finally consented to allow my soon to be 12 year old son to ride with me on my motorcycle so that means more riding this summer!
He has Asperger's Disorder and that, along with what my wife feels his deceased birth mother would say about it, has prevented me from riding him anywhere except around the yard.
Keep it if you can.
Maintain adequate life insurance for your family for the myriad of "what if's" that come along in life.
If you continue riding, ride often and hone your skills. A competent and experienced rider can mitigate many of the potential risks that might occur while riding.
If you continue riding, ride often and hone your skills. A competent and experienced rider can mitigate many of the potential risks that might occur while riding.
Originally Posted By: Silk
What is the reason people feel the need to stop riding and get rid of the bike when marriage/babys happen? Financial,told to by the missus,or scared of dying? I have never seen any as a reason to give up a motorcycle.
I did when my son was born 25 years ago.
Had a XL125 and a Seca750. Sold em both, and regretted it.
Was partly financial, part wifeys request.
10 years later i convinced her to let me get another one.
She got one too! Actually she had 2 bikes.
An old Hodaka 100cc 2 smoke to learn on, and an absolutely gorgeous condition CL175 Honda Scrambler for the street.
When i married wife #2 i told her i loved to ride, and if we married i would NOT sell it.
And of course after the wedding that was her goal. To get me to sell the bike.
I told her absolutely NOT.
Funny thing is, as i found out, wives come and go but the bike remains.
Like the bike knows it's "till death do us part", but women say it but dont mean it.
My opinion? Keep the bike. ;-)
What is the reason people feel the need to stop riding and get rid of the bike when marriage/babys happen? Financial,told to by the missus,or scared of dying? I have never seen any as a reason to give up a motorcycle.
I did when my son was born 25 years ago.
Had a XL125 and a Seca750. Sold em both, and regretted it.
Was partly financial, part wifeys request.
10 years later i convinced her to let me get another one.
She got one too! Actually she had 2 bikes.
An old Hodaka 100cc 2 smoke to learn on, and an absolutely gorgeous condition CL175 Honda Scrambler for the street.
When i married wife #2 i told her i loved to ride, and if we married i would NOT sell it.
And of course after the wedding that was her goal. To get me to sell the bike.
I told her absolutely NOT.
Funny thing is, as i found out, wives come and go but the bike remains.
Like the bike knows it's "till death do us part", but women say it but dont mean it.
My opinion? Keep the bike. ;-)
Another thought that comes to mind.
(kinda OT)
But why do modren couples feel the need to buy a minivan when the wife gets pregnant?
Are kids these days that HUGE that you need a wheeled living room to transport them?
My parents "family cars included a 69 Ford Torino fastback, Plymouth Belvedere 340 conv., Chevy Corvair conv., Chrysler 300 coupe, etc.
No dvd's, no dual range CC, no power sliding rear doors.......LOL!
How did we survive without them??? hahaha!
Or are these modren parents just wimps? (probably)
(kinda OT)
But why do modren couples feel the need to buy a minivan when the wife gets pregnant?
Are kids these days that HUGE that you need a wheeled living room to transport them?
My parents "family cars included a 69 Ford Torino fastback, Plymouth Belvedere 340 conv., Chevy Corvair conv., Chrysler 300 coupe, etc.
No dvd's, no dual range CC, no power sliding rear doors.......LOL!
How did we survive without them??? hahaha!
Or are these modren parents just wimps? (probably)
Originally Posted By: SteveSRT8
oh well, you asked for opinions...
I sold all my bikes and my "hot" cars/trucks when my second child was on the way.
I made life style changes, too. Wanted to be a good Father.
Didn't see how I could be a good one taking unneeded risks.
Well said. Being a good Dad, husband, and provider, does indeed take sacrifices and choices meant for the security of your family. Where I live I see in the news EVERY WEEKEND, motorcyclists dying like flies on our busy highways. I'm sure many had families. Given the added dangers motorcycling contributes to an already risky drive, I personally see it as foolish and selfish to ride a bike when one has a family and dependents. I have owned and ridden many bikes in my past....gave it up after realizing death or a serious injury was a strong possibility in a crowded metro region. Just in the past year TWO fellow workers of mine have died in motorcycle accidents. In one, my coworker turned in front of an oncoming vehicle WITH his wife on the back. Killed him....and seriously injured his wife (now a widow). The other coworker just rode off the edge of a winding mountain road. Gone....forever. He was about to retire. Anther guy at work, who is still alive after a motorcycle accident, has a terrible limp and suffers extreme back pain from it....for life. Not worth it.
Life is much more than riding a motorcycle. Life is more about compromise, balance, and responsibility. Fun and 'escape' can be had in hundreds of ways that don't involve serious risk....and with a family to take care of, you have more to think about than a thrill.
Just my opinion.
oh well, you asked for opinions...
I sold all my bikes and my "hot" cars/trucks when my second child was on the way.
I made life style changes, too. Wanted to be a good Father.
Didn't see how I could be a good one taking unneeded risks.
Well said. Being a good Dad, husband, and provider, does indeed take sacrifices and choices meant for the security of your family. Where I live I see in the news EVERY WEEKEND, motorcyclists dying like flies on our busy highways. I'm sure many had families. Given the added dangers motorcycling contributes to an already risky drive, I personally see it as foolish and selfish to ride a bike when one has a family and dependents. I have owned and ridden many bikes in my past....gave it up after realizing death or a serious injury was a strong possibility in a crowded metro region. Just in the past year TWO fellow workers of mine have died in motorcycle accidents. In one, my coworker turned in front of an oncoming vehicle WITH his wife on the back. Killed him....and seriously injured his wife (now a widow). The other coworker just rode off the edge of a winding mountain road. Gone....forever. He was about to retire. Anther guy at work, who is still alive after a motorcycle accident, has a terrible limp and suffers extreme back pain from it....for life. Not worth it.
Life is much more than riding a motorcycle. Life is more about compromise, balance, and responsibility. Fun and 'escape' can be had in hundreds of ways that don't involve serious risk....and with a family to take care of, you have more to think about than a thrill.
Just my opinion.
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