Firewall in the Arris is now off, SPI firewall in the Cisco wireless router is now on, and... I was able to re-enable "Filter Anonymous Internet Request" (ping blocking and port hiding) and it's no longer interfering with data flow from the Arris, if in fact it was that first time time around.
Oh, BTW, connected up to my workstation at work from the home laptop (Cisco AnyConnect secure mobility client) to make sure the Cisco router's VPN Pass Through options were working. Much faster and crisp now.
OVERKILL your money's no good in this bar tonight, drinks are on me !!