When I turned 50, I realized that I had made a mistake not having children. I've missed out on what is probably the best part of life. If I could go back in time, I'd have 3 kids starting at age 28.
As a young man, I never wanted children. I wanted to enjoy my life, enjoy my job and to keep my money. I kept thinking I'd do or buy something, take an awesome vacation, get the time to do what I wanted, etc.
What actually happened:
1) My boss recognized I did not need to be home for kids. So he used me weekends, nights, overseas, all the time, non stop. The excuses were endless. You don't have to bring kids to little league this weekend,,,, You don't need to get a babysitter,,,, You can work tonight, as your wife will see you another day. Doin a great job, here's a raise.
2) I ended up spending every waking hour at work. A waste of my time.
3) I ended up with good pay, a nice house and some nice commuter cars over the years.
4) I'm a little older and ill, have very little energy and can't use the proceeds from all my hard work for the things I really like. It's too late. I'm too wobbly to ride motorcyles (I love off road riding) , I can't bicycle anymore, I can't even hike, I can't swim anymore (nearly drowned) and I certainly can't drive (or build) race cars anymore. I'm just too tired.
5) I have no kids. Everything I've done was a waste, amounted to nothing and benefits nobody that I love.
I'd give every penny to have my health back, and to have kids. I'd even gladly pay a bitter ex wife the aforementioned $300K in child support if necessary. I now know that money is worthless. What matters is family and friends.
As a young man, I never wanted children. I wanted to enjoy my life, enjoy my job and to keep my money. I kept thinking I'd do or buy something, take an awesome vacation, get the time to do what I wanted, etc.
What actually happened:
1) My boss recognized I did not need to be home for kids. So he used me weekends, nights, overseas, all the time, non stop. The excuses were endless. You don't have to bring kids to little league this weekend,,,, You don't need to get a babysitter,,,, You can work tonight, as your wife will see you another day. Doin a great job, here's a raise.
2) I ended up spending every waking hour at work. A waste of my time.
3) I ended up with good pay, a nice house and some nice commuter cars over the years.
4) I'm a little older and ill, have very little energy and can't use the proceeds from all my hard work for the things I really like. It's too late. I'm too wobbly to ride motorcyles (I love off road riding) , I can't bicycle anymore, I can't even hike, I can't swim anymore (nearly drowned) and I certainly can't drive (or build) race cars anymore. I'm just too tired.
5) I have no kids. Everything I've done was a waste, amounted to nothing and benefits nobody that I love.
I'd give every penny to have my health back, and to have kids. I'd even gladly pay a bitter ex wife the aforementioned $300K in child support if necessary. I now know that money is worthless. What matters is family and friends.
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