Is It Alright To Receive And Not Give?

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Originally Posted By: Colt45ws
This is why I don't like Christmas. I feel like a piece of poop for not getting people presents who get me presents. I just don't know what to get people and its so stressful.
Eventually people stop giving me gifts and then I can relax.


Exactly. What is the point? We run and buy, they run and buy. I would rather someone spend time with me, or be there for me when I need them, than to buy junk.
 
Originally Posted By: John_K
Exactly. What is the point? We run and buy, they run and buy. I would rather someone spend time with me, or be there for me when I need them, than to buy junk.



And I couldn't agree more. Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus,not making some retail corporation richer. It's like "Merry Christmas,welcome to my store,come spend all your money".
 
If you don't have a lot, do something for someone less fortunate, even if it's volunteering, donating something useful-that's what the true spirit of the holidays is all about!
 
Take a plate of cookies to work for all to share. If you come home with presents, it was about their giving.

Receiving is a personal issue that some folks are not easily able to deal with...

Some folks just feel good about giving and don't care about "re-payment". If you are out and about and you see something that you know a co-worker will appreciate, you do it because you are making someone happy and telling them you think about them
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If you just give out junk, your karma will be bad
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Originally Posted By: eljefino
Originally Posted By: Claud
My wife and I don't send Christmas cards, instead we make a donation to a worthy cause. We make that clear to friends and family well in advance. Maybe your wife could adopt a similar policy at work.

Claud.


The human fund. Money For people.


I thought that was a "Seinfeld" joke...is there a charity with that name now?
 
Originally Posted By: aquariuscsm
Originally Posted By: John_K
Exactly. What is the point? We run and buy, they run and buy. I would rather someone spend time with me, or be there for me when I need them, than to buy junk.



And I couldn't agree more. Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus,not making some retail corporation richer. It's like "Merry Christmas,welcome to my store,come spend all your money".


Christmas was a pagan holiday that the church co-opted. It is quite ironic that greedy, godless corporations have now co-opted Christmas into simply a reason to spend money.


A Festivus for the rest of us.
 
I'm the type of guy who helps you move when everyone else disappears. I don't give cheap, useless [censored] no one needs. I give my time. If people are offended, they aren't worth having around anyway.
 
If the gift is given with the right heart, the receiver need not feel bad about not giving anything back. I'd honestly consider it far more rude to decline the gift in the first place than not give something back. If the giver is displeased when they don't receive something back they gave for the wrong reason...
 
We give plenty, don't expect anything, but a little something would be fun to receive........I did tell them not to spend a-lot of money on us.
So, not all my advice has gone for naught.......
 
There's a difference between receiving and taking.

If the gifts were given in the spirit, then the givers were not expecting anything in return...if they were expecting something, or thing less of your wife for not getting something back, then they can bash it.
 
Originally Posted By: Kory
I give my time.


^^That there is the best gift you could ever give,which is priceless and no amount of money could ever buy
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Originally Posted By: Alex_V
If the gift is given with the right heart, the receiver need not feel bad about not giving anything back. I'd honestly consider it far more rude to decline the gift in the first place than not give something back. If the giver is displeased when they don't receive something back they gave for the wrong reason...


I agree with this too
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Its the most liberating thing to simply stop playing the superstition fueled game that is "chistmas". Just stop.....carry on with ACTUAL life and living. Its fake, fictitious, make-believe. No trees (misuse of nature), no decorations, none of this insanity.

try it. I dare you!
 
I think turning things away makes for a more uncomfortable situation. People dont care about your principle, nor do they want to know why it is so. Either they are giving because they selflessly wish to, or else in a year or two it will cease.

A thank you card is prudent too.
 
Originally Posted By: spasm3
You do whats in your heart.

You do as you feel inclined, let her do as she is inclined. Don't keep her from doing what she feels is right for her, or this will lead to bigger problems.


Exactly.

Last summer a buddy texted me that he needed to stop by a wrecking yard to pick up something for his family mini van.
He was on a road trip with his family and didn't have any tools in his vehicle. I told him that's precisely why I keep a couple of small tool sets with me in my car at all times. Dont' know how many times they saved my butt.

Anyway, I made a silly excuse to get his address and sent him a $50 gift card for Canadian Tire to put towards a small tool set. I didn't pay for the card so didn't anticipate anything in return.

He sent me a gift card to a restaurant for the same amount.

....he totally lost the meaning of why I gave the gift (even though I said what to put it towards). I also was not anticipating anything in return.

Oh well, if it makes him feel better for giving me something in return, so be it.
 
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