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Originally Posted By: GearheadTool
Quattro Pete said:
Something tells me GhT is more attached to this Volvo than he is to this lady, but the two are inseparable. Even though it's her car, he probably gets to use it more than she does. Cutting the ties with her would mean a step down to public transport. Alas, you can't have your cake and eat it, too.


^^^ If I can solve this quibble, I get to keep on using my Volvo.
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Let her have the car. You can get a RWD 740/940 and when you fix it, it'll stay fixed.
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Originally Posted By: GearheadTool
And, another Q: Any way to get ONLY INTERNET through Comcast? NO Phones NO TV? (Zip 02189)

Yes, there is, but the internet price will be more expensive when unbundled. Still, inquire about that ECONOMY tier that was mentioned by others which is cheaper than the standard tier, or whatever it's called these days.
 
Originally Posted By: GearheadTool

IN BRIEF: As to this $129+ a month Internet bill.. the phone bill is also $160 or so a month. The phone bill is non-negotiable.. but the Home Cable bill.. [b[we do not watch the TV. It has not been turned on not one time since I came here. However.. I am getting resistance about dumping the service.[/b]


They must rip people off for internet and phone in your part of the country, or you are making a lot of calls that you shouldn't be making. I pay $60 a month for phone and internet combined and it is cable with very good speed.

I don't watch TV since 1989.
 
KInd of a tangential arguement but....the Wall Street Journal did a large survey some years back and noted that one characterisistic of people that have accumulated wealth is that they have extremely low subscription costs to electronic services. Low internet service bills, VERY cheap phone service, etc. This is on place where people throw away their retirement, their children's college education, etc.

It is a good habit to get into to MINIMIZE these services. I have a friend who went out and spent a huge sum of money on, I think, an I-Pad and then showed me that by holding it upside down in his kitchen with a certain program, it showed the night sky in whatever position he held the gizmo! I told him I'd go outside and look at the sky for nothing. If you can't agree on how money should be spent now, it ain't gonna get any better.
 
If finances are THAT tight, get some rabbit ears for your TV and mooch your internet from the local McDonalds. I'm going to guess that you were just bringing up the subject to get replies and your finances aren't really that tight, correct?
 
By what I'm reading here, She is not good with money. You want advice, This is what I would do . If she can't fly right with the money thing then walk before you think of getting married to her. You will be arguing about noney for the rest of your life. NOT GOOD. As for the internet bill, I pay about $150 per month for cable and internet. For landline phone $40.
Just my 2 cents
 
I don't understand are the bills:

Internet and TV combined 130

Two cell phones combined 160

That's more than my wife and I pay, and we have comfortable finances and watch a ton of TV.

I'd agree these subscription costs need to come down. If you can't afford a 500 dollar TV you can't afford $1560 a year in cable tv bills. IMO get some 40 dollar internet, 10 dollar Hulu Plus and ditch cable TV. If you can get cheaper high speed internet more power to you, for what you're using it for I doubt it will matter much.
 
Originally Posted By: bepperb
IMO get some 40 dollar internet, 10 dollar Hulu Plus and ditch cable TV. If you can get cheaper high speed internet more power to you, for what you're using it for I doubt it will matter much.


^ This
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and consider again if you really need that GF in your life - you're (and all of us are) not getting any younger, and it's a shame to waste good years with someone that might do more harm than good ...(IDK much about the history with your GF, I am just going by comments in this thread)
 
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Originally Posted By: johnnydc
By what I'm reading here, She is not good with money.

He hasn't given us all the facts. For all we know, she may be the one paying most of it already and now GhT wants her to cancel some utilities and pay for the car's maintenance instead. If she paid for the car but it's GhT who's mostly using it, then she may be thinking that it should be GhT who should pay for the car's maintenance, and I can't blame her. Of course as we know, GhT's saving abilities are lacking, but again, working at BK it can't be easy.
 
If the girlfriend (roomie....whatever) is this uncompromising now it will only get worse as the relationship progresses. Whatever your priorities are if they are shared...they are 'cost' shared too, if they aren't shared, then they should be separated.

In the words of Norman Osborn: "Do what you need to with her, then broom her fast."
 
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Originally Posted By: johnnydc
By what I'm reading here, She is not good with money.

He hasn't given us all the facts. For all we know, she may be the one paying most of it already and now GhT wants her to cancel some utilities and pay for the car's maintenance instead. If she paid for the car but it's GhT who's mostly using it, then she may be thinking that it should be GhT who should pay for the car's maintenance, and I can't blame her. Of course as we know, GhT's saving abilities are lacking, but again, working at BK it can't be easy.


You might have a valid point there.
 
Originally Posted By: GearheadTool
IN BRIEF:
As to this $129+ a month Internet bill..
the phone bill is also $160 or so a month.

Can we talk about how I should deal with this?
I feel like pounding my head against a wall, if my efforts are this resisted. (Here at home, in an attempt to save money.)


Here's what I would recommend:

Internet should be way, way cheaper.
Get DSL for about $60 or so a month for the lower level speeds.

Phone bill - Ditch the cell phone, get a home phone, and get Vonage, and an answering machine. Phone bill is now only $35 a month. I haven't owned a cell phone since my job provided one, and I happily handed that back in April '09.

If people want to talk to you, they can leave a message, and you can call them back.

There, I just saved you ~$200 a month.

BC.
 
Yes you can get internet through comcast alone. If your non-negotiable phone bill is $160/mo, I assume you have smartphones with internet access? Ditch the cable and internet all together and just use your smartphones.
 
You can negotiate with your roommate if you agree to not watch cable or use that expensive of an internet service. $160 / mo is a lot of money for internet, and unless you do work a lot with it it is not necessary. Maybe set a router speed cap (i.e. using 802.11b router to share internet to cap your speed) so you will be paying only $10 / month?

Stop watching TV is good for you, not just financially but the time you save can do so much more.
 
Originally Posted By: Smokescreen
If the girlfriend (roomie....whatever) is this uncompromising now it will only get worse as the relationship progresses. Whatever your priorities are if they are shared...they are 'cost' shared too, if they aren't shared, then they should be separated.

In the words of Norman Osborn: "Do what you need to with her, then broom her fast."


Yup, wait till you get closer later and you'll suddenly discover that life is so much harder and you should have left way earlier.

My analog / basic cable is only $20 / month, could be $0 if I have the time to put up an antenna.

DSL can be as low as $20/mo, fast enough if you don't download a lot.
 
Originally Posted By: Boomer
KInd of a tangential arguement but....the Wall Street Journal did a large survey some years back and noted that one characterisistic of people that have accumulated wealth is that they have extremely low subscription costs to electronic services. Low internet service bills, VERY cheap phone service, etc. This is on place where people throw away their retirement, their children's college education, etc.

It is a good habit to get into to MINIMIZE these services. I have a friend who went out and spent a huge sum of money on, I think, an I-Pad and then showed me that by holding it upside down in his kitchen with a certain program, it showed the night sky in whatever position he held the gizmo! I told him I'd go outside and look at the sky for nothing. If you can't agree on how money should be spent now, it ain't gonna get any better.


Boomer is right about this part RE: minimise service spendings. I've been keeping my spending as low as possible, examples:

(1) both myself and wifey opted out our national cell carrier for some smaller, more reasonable cell carrier services.

As a result: wifey currently pays 40bux+tax/mnth for unlimited text, voice and internet (on 3G, but not highspeed, no need for that part); I pay 15+tax/mnth on bare bone services (100mins daytime, 50txt/mnth). Occasionally I see my bill goes slightly beyond 20bux/mnth but that's mainly when I'm travelling outside and have to rely on roaming.

(2) we opted for a family deal of real analogue phone line (for security alarm monitoring), internet and internet-tv. TV is a bare-bone service of 26bux/mnth +tax, phone is about 26bux/mnth+tax, internet is 42+tax/mnth, which is paid back by wifey's company (she does quite a bit of telecommuting).

(3) I do 90%+ of the automobile servicing myself, and that typically works out to mainly oil changes, brake pads +rotors every 4 ~6yrs, etc. so the cost on maintenance is very, very low.


checking tire pressures, planning ahead RE: numerous short trips combine into 1, etc. works out very well as well.

(*my wifey owns the camry car due to that fact that she does 3x the travelling distance through hilly terrain to/from work than I do, and she cannot drive my M/T fit anways so what I ended up saving RE: small car on gas, goes to offset her on her 2.4L camry*)

(4) I'm on LED/CFL lighting scheme, so typically, with a family of 4 and a 2000sqft house (incl. cooking 4 old CRT Teles, laundry loads 3x a week, etc.) I averaged around 15kW/day of consumption.

(5) instead of my usual fancy cup of coffee from the nearby coffeeshop, I now saved that extra 3bux/day by getting a Melitta dripper and a small tin of coffee grounds. Works out to about 20cents/cup.

(6) I don't own any fancy toys (no urge for that): my PC is still my 7+yrs old Celeron socket 478 single core based, which serves me well and I intend to use it until mobo burns out. Ditto with my wifey's Athlon single core running Vista pro (for work also).

I don't own any additional "toys" that came straight out of my family's budget: our 46" LED HD TV was her company's Xmas gift, and we still running an old, hand-me-down Toshiba 720p upsampling DVD player with HDMI output (no blu-ray).

My audio gears are all at least 20+yrs old, mostly used stuff/home construction or through repair. Costs me nothing to own (other than electricity and an occasional turntable cartridge stylus replacement).

I don't have a large wardrobe of clothes (IT industry doesn't require you to dress up in a suit all the time), I only buy shoes every several years, we occasionally shop @ 2nd hand store for my kids clothing, etc.)

We don't eat out very often (maybe once every week, mostly cheep foods but not fast food); I cook @ home most of the time, we both doggiebag food or bring our own lunch, etc.

we have life and disability insurance on both.

With that kind of financial discipline: we managed to build up enough cash reserves that if one of us goes dire straits, we can still stay afloat for over 1 yr (while still paying for mortgage).

This is what our financial advisor called: financial discipline. This is what most modern Y-generations lacking of.

Q.
 
Originally Posted By: 97tbird
Originally Posted By: bepperb
IMO get some 40 dollar internet, 10 dollar Hulu Plus and ditch cable TV. If you can get cheaper high speed internet more power to you, for what you're using it for I doubt it will matter much.


^ This
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and consider again if you really need that GF in your life - you're (and all of us are) not getting any younger, and it's a shame to waste good years with someone that might do more harm than good ...(IDK much about the history with your GF, I am just going by comments in this thread)

x2 - you need to honestly (and I mean honestly) ask yourself if all of what I read in this thread is worth it (and I am basing my thoughts on what I read--I have no clue otherwise about your situation). If it is not, you need to re-assess your total situation--else you will wake up one day at 50ish and wonder what happened to the time and lament the fact that you could have done so many other things with your life. Although it may not seem like it in the heat of the moment, it is much better in the long run to cut your losses and move on than "make things work or keep the peace" and waste your life. Everything you have now or ever will have can be replaced save for one thing--time.
 
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