How do I react to this cooly?

[Scoot_4_20]

I told my sister I eat CNOil [coconut oil] 3 times in my reply, yet she asked anyway. She annoys me just a little bit because she's an avid reader but seems to not have good comprehension. She seems to say this just to see how I'll react. How can I react without sounding angry? I was planning to just ask her if she has reading comprehension problems, which IMHO is a fair thing to ask, given her history of asking things after I've already answered them 2 or 3 times in the previous email.

This is my reply to her, and below is her reply to me
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TT is probably the leading CNOil distributor in the USA. The man that owns TT is _____ ________. He's married to a Philippine gal named ________. They live in the Philppines but ______'s from the USA. I've bought from TT for over 10 years.
They had a deal the other day for free shipping (after I just paid $16.50 to have this gallon of oil shipped to me), from Reno, NV, their distribution point, so I bought 5 lb bag each of organic millet and organic hulled barley, 2 more qts of CNOil (BOGOF), and a bar of CNO soap. It came to $46.

A while back they shipped me a poor tasting gallon of CNOil, and after I talked to them about it, they sent me a free gallon replacement (worth about $40) and I later ended up eating that gallon of CNOil anyway. It does have taste variations from time to time, but supposedly it's all very healthy to eat. I eat 3+ gallons of it per year.
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what do you do with all of that oil anyway?

 

[Scoot_4_20]

How does this sound? :

Why do you often ask questions I've already answered? I checked my last reply and I said I eat CNOil at least three times in it. Do you have reading comprehension problems?

 

[JGR]

What I want to know is:









What do you do with all that oil.

 

[Pablo]

I think your BITOG account has been hacked.

 

[gathermewool]

She's family, so I say give her [censored]!

 

[Scoot_4_20]

Originally Posted By: Pablo
I think your BITOG account has been hacked.


Why would you think that, or are you kidding?

 

[Pablo]

Your post reminded me of spam. I just wanted to give you a heads up. Maybe give us a little more context and we can assist.

Some background and details.

 

[Scoot_4_20]

Originally Posted By: Pablo
Your post reminded me of spam. I just wanted to give you a heads up. Maybe give us a little more context and we can assist.

Some background and details.


Hmmm. I'm not sure what you mean.

I email my sister often. She seems to ask me dumb things just to see how I'll react. I want to put her in her place. I feel that she needs to be put in her place. What I've done in the past is ignore her dumb question, but there's got to be something I can say to her in order to get her to quit playing dumb. She's an avid reader and I don't believe her comprehension is that bad. She's in her mid 60s but sharp and has a good office job.

I'm surprised you don't take me serious. I've never Spammed any board before. Look at the posts I've made.

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How does this sound? :

Why do you often ask questions I've already answered? I checked my last reply and I said I eat CNOil at least three times in it. Do you have reading comprehension problems?

 

[Pablo]

To able to respond the reader needs some context, some further details. Reading your OP, I really did not at all get where you are coming from. Honestly your writing is not that clear. She probably is just not that interested in the subject matter.

Life is too short to have to try and put your 60 year old sister in her place. What's the big issue?

How fast does it take you to pound a gallon of coconut oil?

 

[FloatingBrick]

Honestly, I think it is a communication/meaning problem.

I see that in your email you say -

Quote:
I eat 3+ gallons of it per year.


And, I would still ask -

Quote:
what do you do with all of that oil anyway?


Translation - "In what form are you eating this oil? Do you dip bread in it with every meal? Are you deep frying everyday? Do you cook for a lot of people?"

To me (and maybe your sister) 3 gallons is a lot of oil. So - "How do you eat/use 3+ gallons per year?"

 

[Brons2]

I agree. What in the world do do you with all that oil? I might go through a couple of ounces an oil a year. Are you drinking it straight? Frying everything in it?

 

[JHZR2]

Originally Posted By: Scoot_4_20

I'm surprised you don't take me serious. I've never Spammed any board before. Look at the posts I've made.


That little comment is the basis for how I'd go about it. I would use the surprised comment to state your shock at her not getting it.

I'd consider using something like this:

Sis,

I'm surprised you are asking me this after the commentary that I have shared with you regarding CNOil. Look at the information I've provided. As mentioned, I use this heavily in cooking, in multiple techniques. If you would like more information regarding CNOil, I'd be happy to provide, but it is not clear to me if you understand the basis of the what I am telling you. Please advise.



That said, Im going off the basis that there was some slightly more useful discussion around a theme prior to what you showed in your OP. Your OP tells me that there is a man that sells some kind of oil and he has a wife... And that you got some of this oil that smelled funny, which they replaced, and you used the smelly stuff anyway.

OK, first of all, you got a replacement gallon? Wow, what DO you do with all that oil? I assume you like to fry stuff up or cook in a lot of oil? I assume that your initial discussion was related to cooking or fry oil selection or something?

it would be helpful for us to see more to make a better determination.

 

[TooManyWheels]

Originally Posted By: Pablo
... She probably is just not that interested in the subject matter.


There is someone in my family who behaves very similarly, and I have spent a year and a half observing and researching to discover what is going on.

I believe what you are describing is an avoidant or schizoid personality. Basically, the person is not really connected to the same external life that the rest of us are living. They have deliberately retreated into an inner world because they find the outer world too painful and challenging to deal with. However, they need to appear to be connected, so they make what seem to be related responses, but since they aren't really paying attention, the responses are either subtly or grossly "off". This is likely due to something that happened at an early age that was traumatizing relative to their level of sensitivity/resilience.

The avid reading tends to confirm what I am saying, although it would be equally true if she were "zoning out" in some other way - television, games, etc. Another clue would be if she were generally careless, sloppy and non-observant in other ways. Does she generally seem to be lost in some inner world?

I will agree it is extremely aggravating, even maddening - it makes everyone else feel like they are being disrespected and dismissed for no reason. I can say much, much more, but this should get you started. PM me if you would like more information.

 

[Scoot_4_20]

Hi,

I too think she has little interest in the food I eat, or food / diet in general. I'm a devout organic vegetarian these days, and I've sent pics of the foods I eat to her and a few other people, and Sis has ZERO interest in taking any of my advice. She's VERY set in her ways. I shouldn't waste my time trying to help her live a longer better life. She already knows how she's going to live - by the luck of the draw / roll of the dice on processed non organic foods.

It sounds bizarre how anyone cold eat 3+ gallons of CNOil per year but I do. I add 1 TBS of it to warm steamed vegs, rice, etc., most every meal. It's very therapeutic.

Tropical Traditions is probably the biggest distributor of CNOil in the USA. I don't work for them but have bought from them off & on for 10-12 years, ever since I got onto the CNOil bandwagon. CNOil is great because it's a lot more stable than the unstable PUFAs [poly unsaturated fatty acids]. CNOil helps balance blood lipids and contains valuable MCTs [medium chain triglycerides].

I air pop corn and add *tons* of CNOil to it, it's the best oil to have with popcorn. Some of us even eat CNOil out of the jar.

I'm glad I asked here. No need to jump on Sis for saying that. My eating so much CNOil isn't politically correct, so people tend to ask questions about it.

 

[javacontour]

I think you've nailed it. From what little I've read from you here, I got the idea that you were passionate about what you eat.

She really doesn't care to the extent you do.

It's one thing when you attempt to educate someone who is interested. It's quite another when you approach preaching to an uninterested audience.

I'm sure the street preacher who shouts out, "Repent, the end is near" also cares a great deal about the folks he's trying to reach. However, it's not a very effective method.

From your sisters perspective, I suspect you come across as the food and diet version of that street preacher.

So I would approach it from the perspective that she can make her own choices. You live and let live, and choose topics you both have common interests.

Trying to educate folks who don't have the same interest or passion is frustrating for both parties in the exchange.

 

[Scoot_4_20]

That's true. It's best to offer advice *only* if it's asked for. Otherwise, you run the risk of being insulted or ignored.

 

[Scoot_4_20]

I believe we all need to "change our oil" just like we do in our vehicles.

The more CNOil we have in our body, the better off we are, IMHO.

 

[JHZR2]

Originally Posted By: Scoot_4_20
I'm a devout organic vegetarian these days, and I've sent pics of the foods I eat to her and a few other people, and Sis has ZERO interest in taking any of my advice.



Some just cant handle differences and get very militant against folks who do alternative things like be a devout vegetarian...

Sometimes these things get associated with the counterculture to that which the other person aligns to.

She may think that being a veg means that youre also X, Y and Z other things, whatever they may be, and this may be a polite way of engaging with a sibling without getting too involved.

Pure speculation though on this...

 

[Scoot_4_20]

Yeah, may be, but I can handle that. I care very little of political correctness.

I go for what seems to make me well, not for what Sis might think of what I eat. She may think I'm just as bad as anything she ever thought about anyone for all I care. So be it. Our parents both died of cancer and our sister died prematurely and I hope to prevent that, or at least try.

I once thought people that ate CNOil were weird too, until I began doing it myself. Once you see how CNOil makes you feel, you tend to want to consume a lot of it, and I do. Going to try for 4 gallons a year from now on.

 

[urchin]

I think this guy and MetalSlug are on in the same.