General Dating Rant. Calm cool reasoning.
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I may have missed it - what is your profession, your goals?
Why the heck did she answer such an ad? Seems odd.
Why the heck did she answer such an ad? Seems odd.
Powerful women like an even more powerful man in my experience. Seeing that she is a doctor she may look up to someone more powerful. Birds of a feather...
Using an online dating site isn't that out of the ordinary. They're the new singles bar.
I wouldn't sweat her one bit. Think of it this way- you've saved yourself being involved with a woman who would never have the time you deserve for you or family life because of a demanding profession. You would always be second. She would be reluctant to sit home with the kids should you decide to have them. Look a little lower on the totem pole for a woman who would be available and there for YOU.
Using an online dating site isn't that out of the ordinary. They're the new singles bar.
I wouldn't sweat her one bit. Think of it this way- you've saved yourself being involved with a woman who would never have the time you deserve for you or family life because of a demanding profession. You would always be second. She would be reluctant to sit home with the kids should you decide to have them. Look a little lower on the totem pole for a woman who would be available and there for YOU.
Originally Posted By: Jeepster_nut
She would be reluctant to sit home with the kids should you decide to have them. Look a little lower on the totem pole for a woman who would be available and there for YOU.
But again,at least if I were doing it over: No kids. And I would be looking for someone who is also a successful person. I would no longer expect her to sit home for me than I would be sitting home for her.
If you want a "Chain 'em to the kitchen stove or bedroom post" that's another matter. I would shoot for higher.
She would be reluctant to sit home with the kids should you decide to have them. Look a little lower on the totem pole for a woman who would be available and there for YOU.
But again,at least if I were doing it over: No kids. And I would be looking for someone who is also a successful person. I would no longer expect her to sit home for me than I would be sitting home for her.
If you want a "Chain 'em to the kitchen stove or bedroom post" that's another matter. I would shoot for higher.
There isn't much higher to shoot for than dating a doctor though. When/if this guy wants a family either he or she will be home for the first few years until school starts. And unless he is willing to be the mom at home while she works, it will be a tough sell for a doctor to put on hold 10 years (+/-) of higher education.
Going for lower on the totem pole didn't mean finding a kitchen/bedroom slave, but rather someone who would be more willing to put their career on hold for a few years to raise the kids.
Either someone stays home with the kids or they ship 'em off to daycare for someone else to raise. And at that point why bother having kids? My .02 cents.
Going for lower on the totem pole didn't mean finding a kitchen/bedroom slave, but rather someone who would be more willing to put their career on hold for a few years to raise the kids.
Either someone stays home with the kids or they ship 'em off to daycare for someone else to raise. And at that point why bother having kids? My .02 cents.
I wouldn't worry about it. I figured out when a girl stops communicating they're not interested anymore. I had a similar experience with an RN when I was actually home. We went out to a movie, had dinner, hung at her place. [censored], I even spent the night at her house. Then I had to leave for work, being a pilot I really didn't have time to talk unless I'm off duty or have some down time. We talked for a few days, so I left comfortable to ask her out. Usually I'd do it in person but I was happy she was interested this much, I asked her out. I haven't heard a word from her in months.
Let her go!
Let her go!
Sounds like my vision of Hades. Extremely busy, career CENTERED, no time to slow down, avoids direct conversation with difficult situations, and she finds dates on the internet (is she nuts?).
You know what, man? Get a dog. It would make a better companion than this woman.
You know what, man? Get a dog. It would make a better companion than this woman.
If she had time to e-mail and text prior to the date and not now then she is probably not interested. There are a lot of ladies out there that would be interested in you. Do not feel that you did anything wrong because she may be looking for a different type of man. You are a special person because you made an effort to provide her with a special evening and followed up with a note. There are ladies that would consider you a great catch. You need to keep looking. Sometimes the person may now have an impressive job but they are thoughtful, kind and fun to be with and open to new adventures.
Here's a great saying that applies well to dating:
"Some will. Some won't. So what! Who's next?"
Keep looking.
"Some will. Some won't. So what! Who's next?"
Keep looking.
UPDATE:
Just got this in my email:
"Hi hi!
I apologize for being MIA the last couple of days.... such a crazy week! 2 days of OR and coming home around 9 and 7 and passing out! We've been on a surgical whirlwind lately. Two days with the department chairman.
I am seriously craving green tea ice cream since Sunday!
Danger danger.
Still in the OR now, but not scrubbed in, so am sneaking you a quick email.
Hope you're having a great week!!
A
Sent from Android "
OK so maybe I went all paranoid too quick?? Hopefully, I will play my cards right. Personal thanks to everyone - I got a lot out of reading your opinions
By the way, I am a Modeling (yes, HOT girls) & Acting agent that is transitioning into owning my own business -high end hiking and mountaineering clothing line and personal outfitting. (Its a big jump from managing models, but I love outfitting people who are about to adventure travel)
Just got this in my email:
"Hi hi!
I apologize for being MIA the last couple of days.... such a crazy week! 2 days of OR and coming home around 9 and 7 and passing out! We've been on a surgical whirlwind lately. Two days with the department chairman.
I am seriously craving green tea ice cream since Sunday!
Danger danger.
Still in the OR now, but not scrubbed in, so am sneaking you a quick email.
Hope you're having a great week!!
A
Sent from Android "
OK so maybe I went all paranoid too quick?? Hopefully, I will play my cards right. Personal thanks to everyone - I got a lot out of reading your opinions
By the way, I am a Modeling (yes, HOT girls) & Acting agent that is transitioning into owning my own business -high end hiking and mountaineering clothing line and personal outfitting. (Its a big jump from managing models, but I love outfitting people who are about to adventure travel)
Oh the drama!
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Sounds like my vision of Hades. Extremely busy, career CENTERED, no time to slow down, avoids direct conversation with difficult situations, and she finds dates on the internet (is she nuts?).
You know what, man? Get a dog. It would make a better companion than this woman.
I have a great dog she is my best friend. No doubt.
Sounds like my vision of Hades. Extremely busy, career CENTERED, no time to slow down, avoids direct conversation with difficult situations, and she finds dates on the internet (is she nuts?).
You know what, man? Get a dog. It would make a better companion than this woman.
I have a great dog she is my best friend. No doubt.
Lucky dog! Dooooo eeeettttt.
Originally Posted By: needsducktape
UPDATE:
Just got this in my email:
"Hi hi!
I apologize for being MIA the last couple of days.... such a crazy week! 2 days of OR and coming home around 9 and 7 and passing out! We've been on a surgical whirlwind lately. Two days with the department chairman.
I am seriously craving green tea ice cream since Sunday!
Danger danger.
Still in the OR now, but not scrubbed in, so am sneaking you a quick email.
Hope you're having a great week!!
A
Sent from Android "
OK so maybe I went all paranoid too quick?? Hopefully, I will play my cards right. Personal thanks to everyone - I got a lot out of reading your opinions
By the way, I am a Modeling (yes, HOT girls) & Acting agent that is transitioning into owning my own business -high end hiking and mountaineering clothing line and personal outfitting. (Its a big jump from managing models, but I love outfitting people who are about to adventure travel)
See. Told you so. Just kidding. Good luck. She sounds like a good catch
UPDATE:
Just got this in my email:
"Hi hi!
I apologize for being MIA the last couple of days.... such a crazy week! 2 days of OR and coming home around 9 and 7 and passing out! We've been on a surgical whirlwind lately. Two days with the department chairman.
I am seriously craving green tea ice cream since Sunday!
Danger danger.
Still in the OR now, but not scrubbed in, so am sneaking you a quick email.
Hope you're having a great week!!
A
Sent from Android "
OK so maybe I went all paranoid too quick?? Hopefully, I will play my cards right. Personal thanks to everyone - I got a lot out of reading your opinions
By the way, I am a Modeling (yes, HOT girls) & Acting agent that is transitioning into owning my own business -high end hiking and mountaineering clothing line and personal outfitting. (Its a big jump from managing models, but I love outfitting people who are about to adventure travel)
See. Told you so. Just kidding. Good luck. She sounds like a good catch
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
I'd keep looking. It doesn't pass the smell test. I honestly hope I am wrong. I frequently am.
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
I'd keep looking. It doesn't pass the smell test. I honestly hope I am wrong. I frequently am.
Originally Posted By: Al
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
I'd keep looking. It doesn't pass the smell test. I honestly hope I am wrong. I frequently am.
I think a lot of guys on here want women who fit the traditional gender role where they have kids and stay at home to clean, cook, and look after the kids. There are definitely women like that out there, but in this day and age there shouldn't be a negative stigma associated with women who want to be independent and do something with their lives. I mean, why should the woman in a relationship be obligated to postpone her life to raise the kids?
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
I'd keep looking. It doesn't pass the smell test. I honestly hope I am wrong. I frequently am.
I think a lot of guys on here want women who fit the traditional gender role where they have kids and stay at home to clean, cook, and look after the kids. There are definitely women like that out there, but in this day and age there shouldn't be a negative stigma associated with women who want to be independent and do something with their lives. I mean, why should the woman in a relationship be obligated to postpone her life to raise the kids?
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac
I think a lot of guys on here want women who fit the traditional gender role where they have kids and stay at home to clean, cook, and look after the kids. There are definitely women like that out there, but in this day and age there shouldn't be a negative stigma associated with women who want to be independent and do something with their lives. I mean, why should the woman in a relationship be obligated to postpone her life to raise the kids?
I agree with you. I am just sensing that something is not quite right. But 100% yea to your thoughts.
I think a lot of guys on here want women who fit the traditional gender role where they have kids and stay at home to clean, cook, and look after the kids. There are definitely women like that out there, but in this day and age there shouldn't be a negative stigma associated with women who want to be independent and do something with their lives. I mean, why should the woman in a relationship be obligated to postpone her life to raise the kids?
I agree with you. I am just sensing that something is not quite right. But 100% yea to your thoughts.
Originally Posted By: Al
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
I'd keep looking. It doesn't pass the smell test. I honestly hope I am wrong. I frequently am.
What are you thinking?
I'm thinking, Honestly, she is probably not the one (very few are right?!). I'm not in a rush to be married either-but it could be fun getting to know her, and having some good times...
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Glad to hear things are looking up for you.
I'd keep looking. It doesn't pass the smell test. I honestly hope I am wrong. I frequently am.
What are you thinking?
I'm thinking, Honestly, she is probably not the one (very few are right?!). I'm not in a rush to be married either-but it could be fun getting to know her, and having some good times...
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Originally Posted By: needsducktape
What are you thinking?
I'm thinking that surely she has had time other than texting from the OR. Like making it sound like she has been so overwhelmingly busy. Like I said..I'm more than likely wrong..yea by all means..go for it.
What are you thinking?
I'm thinking that surely she has had time other than texting from the OR. Like making it sound like she has been so overwhelmingly busy. Like I said..I'm more than likely wrong..yea by all means..go for it.
When I met my wife I was 'dating around'.
Play the field, make sure she knows you have other interests.
You never know...
Best of luck, I hope you find the right girl.
Play the field, make sure she knows you have other interests.
You never know...
Best of luck, I hope you find the right girl.
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