I went w/ the 2002 CR-V EX over the Forester. The Forester looked great until I saw it in person. It's just a station wagon. The CR-V at least does a better job of pretending to be an SUV. W/ regard to awd sucking gas, it's on demand on the V (or at least is in mine), so no big loss over the fwd. The shifter on the dash operates just like a column shift. You'd never know the difference if you didn't look. The V, by the way, was Car and Driver's top rated until the turbo version of the new forester came out. The V is supposed to be updated w/ a turbo version (I've heard) and also a diesel version when the redesign comes out. The 2.4l iVTEC is a great little engine and very reliable. I've done nothing except change the oil and the rear diff fluid in mine in almost 4 years of ownership. Nothing, and I mean nothing, beats the cargo bay of the V. It's ridiculous how much stuff you can pile in there. As far as the awd engaging in my 2002, it is pretty instantaneuos in mine. My only complaint about the V has been the lack of amenities. I mean, spec'd out, my V pushed $28k. Yet, it only had a Civic quality set of features. I also hate I got a 4 speed auto but the 5 speed auto doesn't seemed to have changed either acceleration or fuel economy. The stock tires are kinda noisy but I replaced them with some Kuhmo touring tires that give a nicer ride AND less noise. Plus since tirerack's warehouse is right down the road I got them very cheap, lol.
I'll drive it into the ground. Based on the spotless engine internals, that'll be a LONG time from now.