Anyone heard from AutoMechanic?

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sloinker said:
He's OK. 18 years old with 70 years of experience. If his dad says so it is the only answer contrary to real evidence. The world and by extension BITOG can be pretty harsh at times.
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Yes it can and he has had hard times at his young age and has disabilities but works all the time
and strives to rise above them.

People...we all need to chill out at times as we never really know what we all go through in life.
 
Zee09 said:
People...we all need to chill out at times as we never really know what we all go through in life.
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I think that's a good reminder and something I can take to heart myself.

Especially on the internet, we have no idea even who the other person is.

I know I've gotten irritated at plenty of people online before. There are still some I've encountered who I genuinely don't like. To be clear, I'm NOT applying that to AutoMechanic. I genuinely enjoyed his posts and also the fact that he seemingly read and reacted to everything on here, although I can see how that would bother others.

In any case, in one of my other hobbies(specifically watch collecting), I'm on a message board where it's likely that there are many prolific or even occasional posters I'll either meet in person or at least have a phone conversation if not a couple with. I can think of a few in particular. One I thought was rather abrupt and rude at times, but when I actually met him I realized that yes, he could be that way in person, but also valued the connections and friendships. At shows he's generally part of the dinner group I hang out with and is someone who I've come to consider a friend. He's also learned what I like and offers me stuff he know I'd be interested in before he goes to Ebay or elsewhere.

I can think of another guy who always came off as a pompous, arrogant, know it all online. When I did meet him, I found out he was much the same way in person :) , but none the less was in a position at one point where I was interacting with him one-on-one a lot. We talked about life a lot, and I heard a lot about his background that made him almost have to be that way. He hadn't had the best upbringing, and in starting what became a rather accomplished professional career he had needed to be that way to get anywhere. Even though I don't like how he comes across at time still, I have genuinely formed a good friendship with him. His daughter started attending the school where I was then employed, which meant he was in my town somewhat regularly and we'd regularly meet for lunch or dinner when he was in town. He later took an interest in one of my fields of collecting, or rather something with a lot of crossover to what I collect. He built an amazing and well researched collection, but at the same time it was an interesting change for him to start seeking me out when he realized just how much I knew that could at least give him some guidance.

I know that's a lot of rambling, but I say it because, again, we all come from a different place in life and don't necessarily know that on the internet. With younger posters, I also try to remember that I'm 33 now, but have been participating in message boards since I was 14. That particular board dealt with another of my interests, Lionel Trains. I was enthusiastic and at the time at least was decently well spoken and coherent in my thoughts. I didn't make it know how old it was until I'd been there a little bit, and many folks were surprised. None the less, I look back on my time there(I'm still a member of that board, but not a regular poster) and there were some genuinely unkind and rude people there. It wasn't just to me-it could be to anyone-but I felt at the time that they were rather bothered that someone my age was both enthusiastically learning and also sharing what I'd learned. I recognize now that I could also be genuinely annoying and rather overconfident in what I knew, although a fair few other members took me aside(so to speak) and spoke to me a lot. I didn't always receive their advice well at the time, but recognize now that they were well intentioned and often correct. In the years since, I've reconnected with several and thanked them for what they told me all those years ago as I have remembered it even if I didn't change things then.

I'll also mention that now, I definitely have my days. Sometimes I get on a message board stressed out in general or have something going on in my life. Last year was incredibly stressful for me for a lot of ultimately good reasons, but still stressful. It started by me moving out of a townhouse where I'd lived for 10 years, leaving a job I'd had for 5 years(and at a place where I'd been for a total of 10 years including my time in graduate school), moving back in with my parents briefly, relocating to a different state, starting a new job, and topping it all off with getting married. The last precipitated everything else, and it was well worth it(something I knew all along) and even though I knew they were all great changes, it was incredibly stressful to basically leave a state where I'd grown up and leave a place that had not only been my employer but in a sense a big part of my identity for 1/3 of my life. That part in particular was a good run but I can see in retrospect it was time for a change, but it wasn't easy. I know at the time my online interactions were sometimes less than kind, and I regret those now.

Even now, though, and over the years, I've had times where I'm just generally in a bad mood and I might pick a fight or take something wrong that wasn't meant that way at all.

I'm glad you're in touch and all is well, and I hope his "time out"(I've had a few of those at various places over the years) is a learning experience. I've tried to make the times it's happened for me just such an experience.
 
bunnspecial said:
I think that's a good reminder and something I can take to heart myself.

Especially on the internet, we have no idea even who the other person is.

I know I've gotten irritated at plenty of people online before. There are still some I've encountered who I genuinely don't like. To be clear, I'm NOT applying that to AutoMechanic. I genuinely enjoyed his posts and also the fact that he seemingly read and reacted to everything on here, although I can see how that would bother others.

In any case, in one of my other hobbies(specifically watch collecting), I'm on a message board where it's likely that there are many prolific or even occasional posters I'll either meet in person or at least have a phone conversation if not a couple with. I can think of a few in particular. One I thought was rather abrupt and rude at times, but when I actually met him I realized that yes, he could be that way in person, but also valued the connections and friendships. At shows he's generally part of the dinner group I hang out with and is someone who I've come to consider a friend. He's also learned what I like and offers me stuff he know I'd be interested in before he goes to Ebay or elsewhere.

I can think of another guy who always came off as a pompous, arrogant, know it all online. When I did meet him, I found out he was much the same way in person :) , but none the less was in a position at one point where I was interacting with him one-on-one a lot. We talked about life a lot, and I heard a lot about his background that made him almost have to be that way. He hadn't had the best upbringing, and in starting what became a rather accomplished professional career he had needed to be that way to get anywhere. Even though I don't like how he comes across at time still, I have genuinely formed a good friendship with him. His daughter started attending the school where I was then employed, which meant he was in my town somewhat regularly and we'd regularly meet for lunch or dinner when he was in town. He later took an interest in one of my fields of collecting, or rather something with a lot of crossover to what I collect. He built an amazing and well researched collection, but at the same time it was an interesting change for him to start seeking me out when he realized just how much I knew that could at least give him some guidance.

I know that's a lot of rambling, but I say it because, again, we all come from a different place in life and don't necessarily know that on the internet. With younger posters, I also try to remember that I'm 33 now, but have been participating in message boards since I was 14. That particular board dealt with another of my interests, Lionel Trains. I was enthusiastic and at the time at least was decently well spoken and coherent in my thoughts. I didn't make it know how old it was until I'd been there a little bit, and many folks were surprised. None the less, I look back on my time there(I'm still a member of that board, but not a regular poster) and there were some genuinely unkind and rude people there. It wasn't just to me-it could be to anyone-but I felt at the time that they were rather bothered that someone my age was both enthusiastically learning and also sharing what I'd learned. I recognize now that I could also be genuinely annoying and rather overconfident in what I knew, although a fair few other members took me aside(so to speak) and spoke to me a lot. I didn't always receive their advice well at the time, but recognize now that they were well intentioned and often correct. In the years since, I've reconnected with several and thanked them for what they told me all those years ago as I have remembered it even if I didn't change things then.

I'll also mention that now, I definitely have my days. Sometimes I get on a message board stressed out in general or have something going on in my life. Last year was incredibly stressful for me for a lot of ultimately good reasons, but still stressful. It started by me moving out of a townhouse where I'd lived for 10 years, leaving a job I'd had for 5 years(and at a place where I'd been for a total of 10 years including my time in graduate school), moving back in with my parents briefly, relocating to a different state, starting a new job, and topping it all off with getting married. The last precipitated everything else, and it was well worth it(something I knew all along) and even though I knew they were all great changes, it was incredibly stressful to basically leave a state where I'd grown up and leave a place that had not only been my employer but in a sense a big part of my identity for 1/3 of my life. That part in particular was a good run but I can see in retrospect it was time for a change, but it wasn't easy. I know at the time my online interactions were sometimes less than kind, and I regret those now.

Even now, though, and over the years, I've had times where I'm just generally in a bad mood and I might pick a fight or take something wrong that wasn't meant that way at all.

I'm glad you're in touch and all is well, and I hope his "time out"(I've had a few of those at various places over the years) is a learning experience. I've tried to make the times it's happened for me just such an experience.
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Wise words well said.
We are all guilty at times. I know i am. Thank you!
 
I'm glad to hear hes well. His eagerness to learn is refreshing, but I also respect when he sticks to his guns about an opinion. Doesn't necessarily mean I agree with that opinion, but in a day and age where folks change philosophies as often as underwear, I like that tenacity.
 
Did automechanic ditch us for a new girl friend? I'm having flashbacks.

I had a very close friend in college and we see each other at least 4-5 times a week. You know like sports, fishing, all you can eat, bars playing pool, working on cars, etc.
sometimes he would disappear for a month or so if he found a new girl friend. Disappear like ZERO contact. lol
We worried and used to call him (landline) when he was missing but quickly learned his pattern. Anytime he was missing, we knew he must have found a new girl friend.
luckily he was the only friend like that. All my other friends had their priorities straight ... meaning your buddies had the highest priority and the girl friend(s) were next and studying kind of last.
 
bunnspecial said:
I think that's a good reminder and something I can take to heart myself.

Especially on the internet, we have no idea even who the other person is.

I know I've gotten irritated at plenty of people online before. There are still some I've encountered who I genuinely don't like. To be clear, I'm NOT applying that to AutoMechanic. I genuinely enjoyed his posts and also the fact that he seemingly read and reacted to everything on here, although I can see how that would bother others.

In any case, in one of my other hobbies(specifically watch collecting), I'm on a message board where it's likely that there are many prolific or even occasional posters I'll either meet in person or at least have a phone conversation if not a couple with. I can think of a few in particular. One I thought was rather abrupt and rude at times, but when I actually met him I realized that yes, he could be that way in person, but also valued the connections and friendships. At shows he's generally part of the dinner group I hang out with and is someone who I've come to consider a friend. He's also learned what I like and offers me stuff he know I'd be interested in before he goes to Ebay or elsewhere.

I can think of another guy who always came off as a pompous, arrogant, know it all online. When I did meet him, I found out he was much the same way in person :) , but none the less was in a position at one point where I was interacting with him one-on-one a lot. We talked about life a lot, and I heard a lot about his background that made him almost have to be that way. He hadn't had the best upbringing, and in starting what became a rather accomplished professional career he had needed to be that way to get anywhere. Even though I don't like how he comes across at time still, I have genuinely formed a good friendship with him. His daughter started attending the school where I was then employed, which meant he was in my town somewhat regularly and we'd regularly meet for lunch or dinner when he was in town. He later took an interest in one of my fields of collecting, or rather something with a lot of crossover to what I collect. He built an amazing and well researched collection, but at the same time it was an interesting change for him to start seeking me out when he realized just how much I knew that could at least give him some guidance.

I know that's a lot of rambling, but I say it because, again, we all come from a different place in life and don't necessarily know that on the internet. With younger posters, I also try to remember that I'm 33 now, but have been participating in message boards since I was 14. That particular board dealt with another of my interests, Lionel Trains. I was enthusiastic and at the time at least was decently well spoken and coherent in my thoughts. I didn't make it know how old it was until I'd been there a little bit, and many folks were surprised. None the less, I look back on my time there(I'm still a member of that board, but not a regular poster) and there were some genuinely unkind and rude people there. It wasn't just to me-it could be to anyone-but I felt at the time that they were rather bothered that someone my age was both enthusiastically learning and also sharing what I'd learned. I recognize now that I could also be genuinely annoying and rather overconfident in what I knew, although a fair few other members took me aside(so to speak) and spoke to me a lot. I didn't always receive their advice well at the time, but recognize now that they were well intentioned and often correct. In the years since, I've reconnected with several and thanked them for what they told me all those years ago as I have remembered it even if I didn't change things then.

I'll also mention that now, I definitely have my days. Sometimes I get on a message board stressed out in general or have something going on in my life. Last year was incredibly stressful for me for a lot of ultimately good reasons, but still stressful. It started by me moving out of a townhouse where I'd lived for 10 years, leaving a job I'd had for 5 years(and at a place where I'd been for a total of 10 years including my time in graduate school), moving back in with my parents briefly, relocating to a different state, starting a new job, and topping it all off with getting married. The last precipitated everything else, and it was well worth it(something I knew all along) and even though I knew they were all great changes, it was incredibly stressful to basically leave a state where I'd grown up and leave a place that had not only been my employer but in a sense a big part of my identity for 1/3 of my life. That part in particular was a good run but I can see in retrospect it was time for a change, but it wasn't easy. I know at the time my online interactions were sometimes less than kind, and I regret those now.

Even now, though, and over the years, I've had times where I'm just generally in a bad mood and I might pick a fight or take something wrong that wasn't meant that way at all.

I'm glad you're in touch and all is well, and I hope his "time out"(I've had a few of those at various places over the years) is a learning experience. I've tried to make the times it's happened for me just such an experience.
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I think that's why God made emoji's there are no emotions in plain print.
 
manicrodder said:
He does???
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I also don't recall him ever getting upset or mad even under direct attack! Sounded like a very nice guy.
However, I haven't read every one of his posts specially lately since covid is relaxing a bit and I'm getting out more often and am not visiting as much ... also kind of figured out the perfect oil. idk, that could be a lie.

He is too nice for mod vacation. so my theories for him not visiting as much:
  1. He found a new girlfriend. No pictures required.
  2. He found the perfect oil. I'll pay to see the pictures please!
 
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