This post really doesn't make a lot of sense.
In what sense are you not attracted to her?
Sexually?
Sex is driven by emotional attachment as much as it is by lust.
Lust waxes and wanes but attachment remains.
From what you've written in your posts, you're very compatibale with the woman.
Kids?
I love our grown sons and am very proud of them for the grit they've exhibited, after I spent a few years thinking that I'd given them no strong values.
Still, kids should not be a deal-breaker after all of the years you've spent with this woman.
What's really going on here.
Are you just in a funk?
That happens.
I can assure you that the grass always appears greener on the other side of the fence, but it rarely is once you get there.
If you really want to leave this woman, you should.
You can probably expect a couple of years of vindictive retribution, which will vary in effect depending upon how well connected she is with your network, social as well as vocational.
I allowed a younger woman at work to become very attached to me emotionally a few years back, even though I had no intention of consumating this relationship in any way.
I regarded her as a close friend.
Silly me.
The retribution was fierce and unrelenting and lasted a little over two years.
Made for an intersting and difficult couple of years at work.
You can expect much worse after twelve years.
Might as well wear a sign saying "untouchable", since you will be.
You're also old enough that many single women will wonder how it is that you've never been married, and a story about having spent twelve years with a woman and then having left her won't be encouraging.
Good luck to you!
In what sense are you not attracted to her?
Sexually?
Sex is driven by emotional attachment as much as it is by lust.
Lust waxes and wanes but attachment remains.
From what you've written in your posts, you're very compatibale with the woman.
Kids?
I love our grown sons and am very proud of them for the grit they've exhibited, after I spent a few years thinking that I'd given them no strong values.
Still, kids should not be a deal-breaker after all of the years you've spent with this woman.
What's really going on here.
Are you just in a funk?
That happens.
I can assure you that the grass always appears greener on the other side of the fence, but it rarely is once you get there.
If you really want to leave this woman, you should.
You can probably expect a couple of years of vindictive retribution, which will vary in effect depending upon how well connected she is with your network, social as well as vocational.
I allowed a younger woman at work to become very attached to me emotionally a few years back, even though I had no intention of consumating this relationship in any way.
I regarded her as a close friend.
Silly me.
The retribution was fierce and unrelenting and lasted a little over two years.
Made for an intersting and difficult couple of years at work.
You can expect much worse after twelve years.
Might as well wear a sign saying "untouchable", since you will be.
You're also old enough that many single women will wonder how it is that you've never been married, and a story about having spent twelve years with a woman and then having left her won't be encouraging.
Good luck to you!
