Man, it makes me feel blessed to have my Taurus with it's SOHC pushrod V6 (The VULCAN). It's Iron, and it doesn't get outstanding mileage, but it can run on crisco and the plug replacement is like stacking blocks compared to some of these procedures.
All kidding aside. I went something around 98,000 miles on my last set of Platinum plugs. I let them cool off overnight, hit them with compressed air, then sprayed some Kroil (penetrating oil) on them and went and ate breakfast. When I came back I hit them with compressed air again (amazing how much crud is in those holes), and they were still tough to remove. (5 years and 98,000 miles is a long long time)
I did apply a small dab of anti-seize to the NGK Double Platinum's I replaced them with. I did so knowing the implications of over-tightening them, however I felt that ease of removal in another 5 years/100,000 miles was worth the risk.
I don't currently own a torque wrench.(Not sure how I would use it on the back bank of plugs either.) All I did was run each plug in by hand as far as possible, then snugged it up with a small 3/8" ratchet.
I too know several guy's who had a Ford Truck that blew a Spark plug through the hood of their car. I'm shocked at how much a difference one more thread of aluminum within the head makes, as that is what Ford (eventually) added to the design to fix the problem.
All I know is that before doing ANYTHING to a vehicle that you are unfamiliar with you need to read up on it. Everyone, from Hyundai to Ferrari has bugs in their new designs that they have to work out. If you learn from someone else's mistakes it can save you a bunch of time and frustration.