Wife's mom is, in our opinion, slightly dementia and diagnosed with a 13cm tumor that is likely ovarian cancer. She was lucky that she can get a surgeon in Kaiser to schedule a surgery within 2 weeks that last 3.5hr if it is benign to about 5hr if it is indeed a cancer (based on biopsy during the surgery). However, she is starting to chicken out and was wondering if she can "wait and see" or take any other medication to reduce / treat it without surgery, as she has never gotten a surgery in life (she's currently 75). We had to convince her that this is really a matter of life and death and there really is no point waiting, and at her age she no longer needs her ovaries, and her mom and sister both had ovarian tumor or cancer so she has a family history of it.
About her borderline "dementia" behaviors: she routinely "cancel" doctors appointment by accidents and lock her medical accounts out by trying the wrong passwords too many times, like locking out 6 times a week.
This got us wondering, what do people in similar situation? How do you work with seniors who fought back on the control? When do you take over their medical plans because they are no longer capable of making decisions?
About her borderline "dementia" behaviors: she routinely "cancel" doctors appointment by accidents and lock her medical accounts out by trying the wrong passwords too many times, like locking out 6 times a week.
This got us wondering, what do people in similar situation? How do you work with seniors who fought back on the control? When do you take over their medical plans because they are no longer capable of making decisions?