Originally Posted By: Bladecutter
Originally Posted By: wrcsixeight
I've told him on numerous occasions that her odd, insulting, and unacceptable behavior was being overlooked, by his close friends,because of the like and respect for him. I can't talk about his marriage with him, but I made sure he knew this before he married her, and before she got pregnant, and that he can't possibly supply her with all the help she needs. I don't think a fleet of psychiatrists could help her.
More recently, I've been avoiding any gathering where the wife and kids will be present, as it is so stressful to witness the children's minds be warped, and my friend to be so disrespected, and emasculated by the psycho wife.
As his friend, I don't know what to do to help him. Continue with the poker face and pretend I don't notice how crazy and unacceptable her behavior is? Or just go off on her and let her know the full contempt everybody feels for her actions, words and behavior. I've suppressed the latter desire for the last 15+ years.
It is just so hard to witness a good man, a good friend, being destroyed by an evil, manipulative woman.
What to do? I'm to see them tomorrow night when a mutual friend is in town.
Unfortunately, you've already let too much time pass without trying to help your friend, and let her win. The only thing you can do is tell him that no matter what happens, when she finally drops the atomic bomb on his head, he can come stay with you, and you will help him dispose of her carcass if need be.
Or better yet, just let him know you will split the cost of a private detective with him, when he needs enough ammo to bury her in court. Honestly, this should be done before she drops the atomic bomb on his head. Nothing defuses that bomb quicker than saying in the middle of that mess that "I have photos and audio of you and XXXX for the past 2 years, sitting in my best friend wrcsixeight's safe deposit box. Are you sure you want to go there with me?"
Just let him know that you've got his back, no matter when he needs you, and that's the best you will ever be able to do.
BC.
X2.
No amount of convincing or trying to talk sense into him will sway things. He is married to her, he knows how bad she is. It's up to him to decide when he's ready to call it quits, if he reaches that point.
I'd just offer your support, but don't try to intervene unless he comes to you for help.
Originally Posted By: wrcsixeight
I've told him on numerous occasions that her odd, insulting, and unacceptable behavior was being overlooked, by his close friends,because of the like and respect for him. I can't talk about his marriage with him, but I made sure he knew this before he married her, and before she got pregnant, and that he can't possibly supply her with all the help she needs. I don't think a fleet of psychiatrists could help her.
More recently, I've been avoiding any gathering where the wife and kids will be present, as it is so stressful to witness the children's minds be warped, and my friend to be so disrespected, and emasculated by the psycho wife.
As his friend, I don't know what to do to help him. Continue with the poker face and pretend I don't notice how crazy and unacceptable her behavior is? Or just go off on her and let her know the full contempt everybody feels for her actions, words and behavior. I've suppressed the latter desire for the last 15+ years.
It is just so hard to witness a good man, a good friend, being destroyed by an evil, manipulative woman.
What to do? I'm to see them tomorrow night when a mutual friend is in town.
Unfortunately, you've already let too much time pass without trying to help your friend, and let her win. The only thing you can do is tell him that no matter what happens, when she finally drops the atomic bomb on his head, he can come stay with you, and you will help him dispose of her carcass if need be.
Or better yet, just let him know you will split the cost of a private detective with him, when he needs enough ammo to bury her in court. Honestly, this should be done before she drops the atomic bomb on his head. Nothing defuses that bomb quicker than saying in the middle of that mess that "I have photos and audio of you and XXXX for the past 2 years, sitting in my best friend wrcsixeight's safe deposit box. Are you sure you want to go there with me?"
Just let him know that you've got his back, no matter when he needs you, and that's the best you will ever be able to do.
BC.
X2.
No amount of convincing or trying to talk sense into him will sway things. He is married to her, he knows how bad she is. It's up to him to decide when he's ready to call it quits, if he reaches that point.
I'd just offer your support, but don't try to intervene unless he comes to you for help.