This is a bit random, but this IS the place for OT stuff, so..
This is something I muse / mull over from time to time:
A lot of us have been in the situation where a friend / colleague at work (strictly speaking of friends / colleagues AT WORK here, and NOT super close very long term old friends, etc) move away or change jobs, etc., and how she/he says "I will keep in touch", etc...
(and about 90% of them never do, but this is just a polite/normal thing to say, I am aware of that fact, too).
However, I have always had this mental rule that the person who MOVED AWAY/LEFT should initiate the so-called "keeping in touch" thing, and NOT the people who were left behind. (of course not immediately; only after a certain period of settling down / getting used to new surrounding/new job etc etc.)
So, due to this self implied "rule" (which I myself practice given the situation), even when people I have genuinely liked moved/changed jobs, I do NOT seek contact or initiate "keeping in touch", and wait for the person who moved away to do it.
And some of them have done that, and some of them haven't... no HUGE loss, as I have almost always correctly predicted who would and who wouldn't...
There have been exceptions.
In a way, it's a bit sad, and I have wondered if some people who leave have exactly the OPPOSITE rule in their minds. (that THEY expect the people from their OLD workplace should initiate K.I.T. first)
Is this "rule" of mine fair/logical at all? or is the OPPOSITE rule more fair ?
Or should there be any rule at all?
This is something I muse / mull over from time to time:
A lot of us have been in the situation where a friend / colleague at work (strictly speaking of friends / colleagues AT WORK here, and NOT super close very long term old friends, etc) move away or change jobs, etc., and how she/he says "I will keep in touch", etc...
(and about 90% of them never do, but this is just a polite/normal thing to say, I am aware of that fact, too).
However, I have always had this mental rule that the person who MOVED AWAY/LEFT should initiate the so-called "keeping in touch" thing, and NOT the people who were left behind. (of course not immediately; only after a certain period of settling down / getting used to new surrounding/new job etc etc.)
So, due to this self implied "rule" (which I myself practice given the situation), even when people I have genuinely liked moved/changed jobs, I do NOT seek contact or initiate "keeping in touch", and wait for the person who moved away to do it.
And some of them have done that, and some of them haven't... no HUGE loss, as I have almost always correctly predicted who would and who wouldn't...
There have been exceptions.
In a way, it's a bit sad, and I have wondered if some people who leave have exactly the OPPOSITE rule in their minds. (that THEY expect the people from their OLD workplace should initiate K.I.T. first)
Is this "rule" of mine fair/logical at all? or is the OPPOSITE rule more fair ?
Or should there be any rule at all?