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How did I become the constable? #5163911 07/17/19 10:05 PM
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Several years ago I started a neighborhood watch on face book. Its come in handy when an outsider is dumping trash illegally or someones dog got lost.

Lately there has been a lot of bickering between neighbors on my site. Most of it is started by a lady thats kookoo.

Now when someone gets into an argument one or both sides start asking me for help. Asking me to go talk to the other person etc. I don't have time for that!

I'm just a nobody. Although I have lived in my area longer (45 yrs) than most others. Im not a judge,mayor or cop lol


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5163916 07/17/19 10:17 PM
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Perhaps you are viewed as a respected "elder" of the community...


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5163919 07/17/19 10:28 PM
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You should set up a ring in your backyard and let them settle it the old fashioned way, via fisticuffs!


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: maxdustington] #5163925 07/17/19 10:40 PM
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Originally Posted by maxdustington
You should set up a ring in your backyard and let them settle it the old fashioned way, via fisticuffs!

Ha!


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: chemman] #5163926 07/17/19 10:41 PM
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Originally Posted by chemman
Perhaps you are viewed as a respected "elder" of the community...

Naw. I'm the guy with gallons of oil and lots of filters in his garage.


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5163928 07/17/19 10:47 PM
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But you are a respected "elder" here so why not at home too?


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5163940 07/17/19 11:14 PM
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Oh yeah you need to have them see this clip and tell them not to bicker and argue about who killed who.


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Originally Posted by chemman
But you are a respected "elder" here so why not at home too?



Good point ^^^^^^^^^


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5164028 07/18/19 05:29 AM
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Originally Posted by Chris142
Several years ago I started a neighborhood watch on face book. Its come in handy when an outsider is dumping trash illegally or someones dog got lost.

Lately there has been a lot of bickering between neighbors on my site. Most of it is started by a lady thats kookoo.

Now when someone gets into an argument one or both sides start asking me for help. Asking me to go talk to the other person etc. I don't have time for that!

I'm just a nobody. Although I have lived in my area longer (45 yrs) than most others. Im not a judge,mayor or cop lol


Fakebook was your first mistake. It's the land of idiots. Have you actually manned up and just told them to shut up and grow up?

I didn't realize California had gotten that bad. Severe illegal trash dumping? Bickering and "coocoo" neighbors? Not exactly a chamber of commerce picture.

Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5164063 07/18/19 06:26 AM
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We have a page like this and it is controlled by a moderator. If someone violates the guidelines by going political, selling their services etc. their post gets deleted. Same as BITOG.

Since you started this page, aren't you the moderator?


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5164067 07/18/19 06:32 AM
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Just learn to say No.


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5164075 07/18/19 06:38 AM
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Illegal dumping is our biggest problem. People from the city dont want to pay so they dump here.

https://cms.sbcounty.gov/dpw/SolidWasteManagement/Fees.aspx

Most of my neighbors are good. They will show up by the dozen to catch illegal dumpers.

The kookoo lady must be bipolar. She buys empty houses,puts them up for sale @3X what she paid then sits on them. Often they get broken into and she is real fast to start blaming others for breaking in.


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Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5164126 07/18/19 07:51 AM
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We have that as well, and people who would ordinarily be nice face to face will be quite rude, to the point of making death threats, online.

Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5164201 07/18/19 09:48 AM
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Originally Posted by Chris142
Several years ago I started a neighborhood watch on face book. Its come in handy when an outsider is dumping trash illegally or someones dog got lost.

Lately there has been a lot of bickering between neighbors on my site. Most of it is started by a lady thats kookoo.

Now when someone gets into an argument one or both sides start asking me for help. Asking me to go talk to the other person etc. I don't have time for that!

I'm just a nobody. Although I have lived in my area longer (45 yrs) than most others. Im not a judge,mayor or cop lol


People naturally turn to those who exhibit traits like sanity, strength and stability when there is someone who, for lack of a better word, "infests" an otherwise functional community; be that a real-life community or a virtual one (where people are more emboldened, as you have observed, by the cloak of disconnection from direct contact with others). Someone who DOESN'T get sucked in emotionally to bickering in some given community can often times quickly find themselves the anchor of that community.

Whether that's a burden or an honour is up to you; but your community clearly needs your activity in that role.

I am a Neighbourhood Watch block captain and I also moderate about a dozen Facebook Groups, ranging from Neighbourhood Watches to community groups to school parent councils to community gardens, etc. All of these have some discord that arises from the disparate personalities that constitute them. I strongly suggest placing a "Sticky" post atop your Group that stipulates the standards to which your members' conduct will be expected to meet. Here is the one I use for a neighbourhood group (serving pretty much the same function as yours) I moderate all by my lonesome:

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Welcome, neighbours!

This forum is here for us to share and discuss information pertinent to our neighbourhood. Our participation makes this work. It works best when we agree that:

1) Discussions remain cordial. Insults and derogatory language will be removed.

2) Language must be family-friendly. We never know who is reading this and watching us. The example we set for them here will be free of f-bombs.

3) Discussions involving politics and religion, beyond the scope of our neighbourhood's immediate concerns, rarely end well. You have a personal platform on Facebook, but this is not it.

If something about a post lowers our forum below these standards, please report it and someone's phone will ding and they will fix it.


I deal with lots of reported posts and I have to remove a lot of content. It doesn't take all that much time. I am always polite and clear in my communications with the involved parties and I think the Groups I moderate are better off from my efforts.

Failing effort's effectiveness, you can always just remove the kookoo lady member. Else you may find yourself facing an exodus of the quality members.

Re: How did I become the constable? [Re: Chris142] #5164219 07/18/19 10:16 AM
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^what he said. Many people look for a leader to follow. Others won't. Show some leadership and you end up leading.



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