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Distant acquaintance probing for personal #4848016
08/22/18 08:02 PM
08/22/18 08:02 PM
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Mr Nice Offline OP
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Distant acquaintance probing for personal information. smirk

Has a person you know just as an acquaintance try and be nosy and probe for personal info ?

Example:

Hi Dave, haven't seen you in a long time. What's new ?

Me: Same ole...

Anything new and exciting ?

Me: Not really...

So what's going on ?

Me: Not much...

The conversation goes on and you really don't want to be rude but at the same time you are really not in the mood to give any personal details of what you got going on in your life. smile This happens to me every 6 months and I end up for 10 minutes having a conversation about nothing.



Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848026
08/22/18 08:12 PM
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If it is being done by phone, just block the number. If it is by email just delete it or mark the letter as spam. You have no obligation to speak or correspond to anyone unless of course , you wish to.


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Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848027
08/22/18 08:13 PM
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Wouldn't call that probing for personal information, just small talk that beats discussion about the weather.


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Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848033
08/22/18 08:24 PM
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You may not be talkative and they are trying to draw you out.
I've known people like that and it is a struggle to talk to them.
I no longer try. It's just too hard. But this may not be the case.


"If I walked on water, they'd say I couldn't swim."
Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848045
08/22/18 08:47 PM
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You must be the strong silent type.

I'd simply ask him/her the same questions. My bet is he/she wants to tell you all about their life. And I'd bet "all in."


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Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848074
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That's not really a probe for personal information, asking how you are and what's going on. Maybe they're just trying to reconnect, or maybe they're trying to steal your retirement accounts.

For those kind of inquiries I give them a quick, non-detailed review of the past period of time that I haven't seen them, then ask THEM how THEY are doing in the same manner. Quid Pro Quo.


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Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848081
08/22/18 09:26 PM
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Originally Posted By: Mr Nice
Distant acquaintance probing for personal information. smirk

Has a person you know just as an acquaintance try and be nosy and probe for personal info ?

Example:

Hi Dave, haven't seen you in a long time. What's new ?

Me: Same ole...

Anything new and exciting ?

Me: Not really...

So what's going on ?

Me: Not much...

The conversation goes on and you really don't want to be rude but at the same time you are really not in the mood to give any personal details of what you got going on in your life. smile This happens to me every 6 months and I end up for 10 minutes having a conversation about nothing.




I just went thru similar with an ex-girlfriend from 1969-1970. When she started asking me questions about the old gang we hung around with, I-then reminded her of the night we were going to elope and I froze - sorta' chickened out. We were both 18 years old back then.
I then told her I sometimes feel a regret for not eloping and still have strong feelings for her.

I haven't heard from her since. It's been about two weeks since our last email exchange. Last week I deleted our 4-5 email exchanges and also her email address.
Sayonara ''once again'' Sandy.

She may have freaked out in my last email, when I told here about her dead son and how his anniversary was arriving August 7th. I then told her the other son's name and mentioned the two grandkids.

She has no idea I'm a Medium in real life. So I may have scared her off.


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Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Triple_Se7en] #4848092
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Originally Posted By: Triple_Se7en
Originally Posted By: Mr Nice
Distant acquaintance probing for personal information. smirk

Has a person you know just as an acquaintance try and be nosy and probe for personal info ?

Example:

Hi Dave, haven't seen you in a long time. What's new ?

Me: Same ole...

Anything new and exciting ?

Me: Not really...

So what's going on ?

Me: Not much...

The conversation goes on and you really don't want to be rude but at the same time you are really not in the mood to give any personal details of what you got going on in your life. smile This happens to me every 6 months and I end up for 10 minutes having a conversation about nothing.




I just went thru similar with an ex-girlfriend from 1969-1970. When she started asking me questions about the old gang we hung around with, I-then reminded her of the night we were going to elope and I froze - sorta' chickened out. We were both 18 years old back then.
I then told her I sometimes feel a regret for not eloping and still have strong feelings for her.

I haven't heard from her since. It's been about two weeks since our last email exchange. Last week I deleted our 4-5 email exchanges and also her email address.
Sayonara ''once again'' Sandy.

She may have freaked out in my last email, when I told here about her dead son and how his anniversary was arriving August 7th. I then told her the other son's name and mentioned the two grandkids.

She has no idea I'm a Medium in real life. So I may have scared her off.


I don't see how that would scare her....... frown OMG


"If I walked on water, they'd say I couldn't swim."
Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848094
08/22/18 09:39 PM
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Just start getting real technical about group II, III, IV motor oil and HOAT vs OAT V GOAT antifreeze.

Tearolators, OCODS, long windied stories that never have a true ending that just ramble on and on.


The calls will stop soon enough. smile

Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848097
08/22/18 09:41 PM
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So, "Mr Nice" is a bit of a play on the words, huh?


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Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: dishdude] #4848122
08/22/18 10:06 PM
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Originally Posted By: dishdude
Wouldn't call that probing for personal information, just small talk that beats discussion about the weather.


Yeah, just change the topic and start talking about other deep subjects. You can switch to sports, weather, movies, tv shows, etc. People usually like to talk about themselves so you can usually flip it back by asking them the same and then ask probing questions to keep it going.

Last time I was talking to a random person, I somehow switched it over to the heat death of the universe. A couple other people jumped in so it got interesting for a little while. Next time I think I'm going to try and squeeze in quantum entanglement.

Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Mr Nice] #4848134
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Why are you so bitter?


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Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: dishdude] #4848182
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Originally Posted By: dishdude
Wouldn't call that probing for personal information, just small talk that beats discussion about the weather.


Yeah, I was waiting for the "What's your SSN and bank account number?".

Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: ZeeOSix] #4848238
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Originally Posted By: ZeeOSix
Originally Posted By: dishdude
Wouldn't call that probing for personal information, just small talk that beats discussion about the weather.


Yeah, I was waiting for the "What's your SSN and bank account number?".


Yeah or maybe they're a spy for some foreign government and they're just practicing their trade craft.

Re: Distant acquaintance probing for personal [Re: Wolf359] #4848258
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Originally Posted By: Wolf359
Originally Posted By: ZeeOSix
Originally Posted By: dishdude
Wouldn't call that probing for personal information, just small talk that beats discussion about the weather.


Yeah, I was waiting for the "What's your SSN and bank account number?".


Yeah or maybe they're a spy for some foreign government and they're just practicing their trade craft.


It only works for hot female spys. grin2

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