QS is the easy recommendation.
I haven't liked Valvoline Synpower 5w30, but the 0w20 has been great in our past Subaru and my Honda Fit. Not the 5w20 but the 0w20.
If that was my Pilot I'd sub 2 quarts 5w30 of the sump for the 0w20.
Does she know that car has a weak structure in frontal impacts? '
Big Box of Air (and thin mild steel) as I call them?!
2014 Nissan Rogue S CVT, OC#9 41392mi-QSUD10W30 + M110A CHAMP Filter; 2017 Subaru Crosstrek CVT OC#2 ?? mi-SOA/Idemitsu 0w20 + SOA Filter