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#4539677 - 10/10/17 10:22 PM Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home
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Registered: 06/05/03
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My wife and I are keeping her female 12yr old 2nd cousin while her mom gets clean. I feel that the kid needs a family connection. Something she does not have at home.

So far she is in charge of chickens daily. Trash and cat boxes every other day.

Too much or ok? Not enough? She seems to enjoy helping out. I dont want to burden her with too much or spoil her with no chores.

Thoughts?

Ps. She is the only 6th grader in her class that can drive a stick shift jeep. Bumpy and rough but she understands the basics smile
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#4539682 - 10/10/17 10:31 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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I don't think its too much. She isn't breaking into a sweat is she. Teaching her to drive and a little allowance will instill some good work ethic in her you're on the right track.
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#4539688 - 10/10/17 10:44 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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Thatís admirable Chris. She most likely needs structure in her life right now and probably wants to help out. Good on you and your wife, hope it all works out.

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#4539689 - 10/10/17 10:45 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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Seems fine to me. Ask her yourself about her workload. And continue to be a good role model.

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#4539691 - 10/10/17 10:54 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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It's a good idea to slowly add chores rather than dump them on her all at once. If she starts to do things on her own without being told like vacuum the floors then you have a real good kid there.

She might not want to go back when that time comes. Have you considered that possibility?
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#4539695 - 10/10/17 10:59 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: PimTac]
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Originally Posted By: PimTac
It's a good idea to slowly add chores rather than dump them on her all at once. If she starts to do things on her own without being told like vacuum the floors then you have a real good kid there.

She might not want to go back when that time comes. Have you considered that possibility?


I would say this is highly likely.
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#4539697 - 10/10/17 11:04 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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Teach her how to turn wrenches!

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#4539705 - 10/10/17 11:13 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Merkava_4]
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Originally Posted By: Merkava_4
Teach her how to turn wrenches!


This. That would be an awesome bonding moment and something she'll remember and take with her for the rest of her life.
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#4539707 - 10/10/17 11:14 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Merkava_4]
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Originally Posted By: Merkava_4
Teach her how to turn wrenches!
I have a pic of that! Dont have a way to post it though.
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#4539723 - 10/10/17 11:42 PM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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Great job! I have fostered for family and community and the hardest part is seeing how much the kids want to go back to mom no matter how bad of a parent she was. I've seen some bad stuff. My wife and I are sponcering our niece in college right now, she's earned it and it's a great feeling. Too bad kids can't choose their parents.
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#4539767 - 10/11/17 03:07 AM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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Sounds like this kid landed at the right home at the right time. My only suggestion is to balance the chores with fun stuff, the main idea being to keep her busy!

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#4539780 - 10/11/17 04:43 AM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: gman2304]
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Originally Posted By: gman2304
Thatís admirable Chris.


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#4539791 - 10/11/17 05:35 AM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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That's awesome.
Wrenching.
Cooking.
Laundry.
Make it fun and she can learn to take care of herself too
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#4539823 - 10/11/17 06:46 AM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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Originally Posted By: Chris142
Ps. She is the only 6th grader in her class that can drive a stick shift jeep. Bumpy and rough but she understands the basics smile


I can remember being that age driving the old standard transmission Jeep around the deer lease all the time. Take her somewhere to do something like that,she'll have a total blast!! Those are some of my favorite memories with my dad.
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#4539824 - 10/11/17 06:47 AM Re: Chores for a 12 yr old?? Not have at home [Re: Chris142]
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Kudos to you Chris. You might want go give her an allowance for chores. The concept of work followed by a paycheck is not a bad thing. Not saying its necessary or the best thing in your situation.


A neighbor who is white adopted 2 African American kids. We hire the boy all the time to do chores. He is an amazingly hard worker. Very polite and he calls my wife "Miss Mary"..lol.

Keep us up to date.
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