that's what i encountered the first time i tried to change the oil on my neon...
after tugging and yanking for the better part of a half hour, I took the car back to the local Valvoline place (where I had been a loyal money pot, i mean customer, for the better part of 10 yrs..) explained the situation to them, and went ahead and just had them change the oil.
next time around, when i got under the car, it was just a little over finger tight, as it should be.
i ended up replacing the drain plug 2 oci's later, because of the rounded off shoulders from my first attempt.