Spitty,
I can see the good reasons you have for being dissatisfied with the purchase process to Canada. What are 'reasonable and just' in terms of charges and surcharges for an international purchase to one, is obviously not reasonable to you.
Can't say that I really blame you. Ebay doesnt allow a purchase surcharge for auctions being paid for by paypal, but then again, gas stations up their prices so that cash or credit get the same price, and lots of businesses offer a 'cash discount'.
If you feel that the distributor isnt making the purchase worth completing, then let them know that, and let them know that they lost the sale. Let Frank know that as well, and don't make the purchase. There are other products which work differently, may not be as thorough, but may work well enough. Consider doing an LC20 flush, a schaeffer's neutra flush, or an amsoil engine flush. If their site sponsors are more willing to do business on your terms, then you still get a quality product. Business is competitive, let the businesses compete for what will do the job well enough for you. These business folks need to eat too. If they want your sale, theyll make things happen or at least explain completely honestly why they cannot, and perhaps their honesty will comfort you into being willing to make the purchase (or not - your call).
Do what is best for you, and please disregard all of the insulting posts in this thread.
Best,
JMH