Spasm - I missed this set of posts, forgive me!
Dale, known as "Snort", flew in an era when people were forgiven for honest mistakes. What we called "flat-hatting" or showing off was strictly forbidden, and generally not forgiven, but the above photo (of the LSO Platform and the F-14) was during an airshow. It was supposed to be close! Further, you'll notice that the airplane is climbing, and while it was close, the nose was pointed slightly away from the carrier, so even as it surprised everyone, it was clear that the airplane wasn't in danger of either hitting the water or the carrier itself.
So, if the mistake in this case was "you flew too close", then it would be forgiven because the airplane wasn't in danger. I grew up in those days as well. I've made a few mistakes.
Now, those mistakes are not forgiven in our current climate. We live in a "zero defect" climate where any mistake, any perceived transgression, is followed by swift merciless career termination. Fighter pilots do not even come close to "pushing the edge" because their careers are on the line every time they fly. Every mistake is scrutinized and reviewed at higher authority than the squadron level. It's taken the edge off combat aviators. They don't push the airplane. When droning over Afghanistan at 30,000' with no fighter threat, they don't need to. Take off, fly for hours, refuel, hold for hours, refuel, release a JDAM on coordinates, refuel, fly for hours, land. That' it. Only the landing takes skill on that mission profile.
Dale also had an exceptional feel for the airplane. He was known for pushing it closer to the edge than others, again, see that famous picture, and through that kind of flying, repeated over more hours than any other F-14 pilot, he was able to get the big fighter to truly perform miracles.
I've flown on his wing and seen him maneuver the airplane. He's genuinely gifted. But there are lots of other fighter pilots I've seen who were genuinely gifted. I mentioned "Shaggy" in the F-14 thread, and I've been privileged to fly on the wing of "Streak" who was every bit Snort's equal. Streak could beat a superior airplane (F-16N, for example, or F-15C) every single time. And his landings were incredibly smooth and precise.
A gift for flying, a willingness to push the machine, a climate that allowed it, and lots of experience under those conditions. That's the secret...