I found "shift flare" in our 2001 Civic, and our 2011 Camry, and in the previous ancient Escort; might have found it in something else too. It's entirely possible that it's me (but I doubt it, as I never do anything wrong); but none of these seemed to do it: '83 S10, 86 Subaru, 00 Saturn, 04 TDI. Our Camry just requires a lot more finesses on my part to drive, I guess.
Dunno. These days the only systems in cars that I truly hate are DRL's and seatbelt chimes. Everything else seems to be reasonably well integrated to my liking.