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I have this buddy who quit hanging out with me for a year or two and I decided to text him one day and we started hanging out again, but I've noticed the last few months the only thing he wants to do is what he wants to do. He pretty much changed a lot in the two years we didn't talk, and he suddenly became interested in girls, but the problem is that's all he wants to do is go to the bar and drink and maybe a couple other things. That's part of the problem is I go to the bar and he sits there, doesn't even hit on girls. He also keeps wanting me to go to Twin Peaks with him so he can talk to this waitress, but we've been back like 4 times and she's never there. He doesn't understand that girls working there get hit on everyday by super hot rich guys, so his chances aren't very good. Plus the girls probably remember him by now because he always asks if that certain girl is working. lol I try to get him to do things that we both want to do, but I just can't get him to do those things anymore.
At first he was cool and we did a variety of things, but lately he's become super cheap and if it cost too much money he won't do it. He's basically using me it seems. Like last time we agreed to go play at Top Golf, then he cancelled when I asked him if we were still going. Not sure when he was planning on telling me.... I just don't understand. I don't really have many friends, so I get kind of lonely and i'll hang out with him now only to get some social interaction basically. People always cancel on me when I try and schedule times to hang out, so it's not like I don't try. Why is he like this? He didn't used to be like this. He's gone through phases of being super cheap, but never selfish. Then he has the nerve to call me boring when I come up with all these things we can do, but he shoots down my ideas, but can't come up with any of his own.
I would stop hanging out with him altogether, but I have to have some social interaction. My other friend I have works constantly and has a wife and 4 kids, so he doesn't have much time to hang out. Then I very rarely get any bro time with him because he brings he wife and kids along wherever we go. Then if we do hang out together without them, she'll text him constantly.
I'm just kind of baffled that he's acting the way he's been acting. I kind of think he's becoming an alcoholic too. He's got a good sized beer belly on him now and he used to be skinny. Imo friends should be able to find something that both parties like to do. Now of course, you're going to still have to do things you don't want to do with them, but they have to return the favor.
Anyone have this kind of problem? My buddy with four kids doesn't bother me as much because I know he tries his best.
At first he was cool and we did a variety of things, but lately he's become super cheap and if it cost too much money he won't do it. He's basically using me it seems. Like last time we agreed to go play at Top Golf, then he cancelled when I asked him if we were still going. Not sure when he was planning on telling me.... I just don't understand. I don't really have many friends, so I get kind of lonely and i'll hang out with him now only to get some social interaction basically. People always cancel on me when I try and schedule times to hang out, so it's not like I don't try. Why is he like this? He didn't used to be like this. He's gone through phases of being super cheap, but never selfish. Then he has the nerve to call me boring when I come up with all these things we can do, but he shoots down my ideas, but can't come up with any of his own.
I would stop hanging out with him altogether, but I have to have some social interaction. My other friend I have works constantly and has a wife and 4 kids, so he doesn't have much time to hang out. Then I very rarely get any bro time with him because he brings he wife and kids along wherever we go. Then if we do hang out together without them, she'll text him constantly.
I'm just kind of baffled that he's acting the way he's been acting. I kind of think he's becoming an alcoholic too. He's got a good sized beer belly on him now and he used to be skinny. Imo friends should be able to find something that both parties like to do. Now of course, you're going to still have to do things you don't want to do with them, but they have to return the favor.
Anyone have this kind of problem? My buddy with four kids doesn't bother me as much because I know he tries his best.
