Originally Posted By: 01rangerxl
Not a direct parallel to your story, but one of my aunts got herself in a crazy situation. She spent her retirement savings getting custody of two teens she had helped care for all of their lives (long, bad story). Their biological mother was a violent alcoholic and drug addict who wound up committing suicide. My aunt has done everything in her power to make sure they have no hardship since, and she has paid the price for it. One trashed her house, conned a laptop out of her (she bought it on the premise he would enroll in community college), and was generally totally ungrateful for her totally supporting him. He wound up moving in with his biological father and cutting off contact with my aunt. A good thing for her, though she is unhappy about the outcome even though she got rid of one albatross. The other is now 28 and still highly dependent on my aunt, though at least he isn't bat [censored] crazy like his younger half brother. He can't seem to do anything on his own at all though. He is totally dependent on my aunt to handle things like taxes, insurance, contracts, etc. She just does things for him without making him learn how to handle it on his own, and just says "well, it's his ADHD." Here's the thing about the ADHD...he refuses to take medication for it. On top of that, he was supposed to be paying her rent, but I'm pretty sure he hasn't paid her anything for the better part of a year. She buys all his food and a lot of his gas, while he drinks craft beer and smokes cigarettes all the time. She has even let him use her debit card to buy cigarettes even though she objects to him smoking. He is somewhat employed, but it's a variable situation and he has been through countless jobs, and it doesn't really matter since he doesn't contribute. My aunt has somewhat acknowledged that her way of doing things is not sustainable, but also won't force any kind of change. It's just plain crazy, but the lack of rules and expectations has allowed it to happen.
Isn't everyone today diagnosed with either ADHD or Aspergers Syndrome? Seems like the doctors love to diagnose those two.
Not a direct parallel to your story, but one of my aunts got herself in a crazy situation. She spent her retirement savings getting custody of two teens she had helped care for all of their lives (long, bad story). Their biological mother was a violent alcoholic and drug addict who wound up committing suicide. My aunt has done everything in her power to make sure they have no hardship since, and she has paid the price for it. One trashed her house, conned a laptop out of her (she bought it on the premise he would enroll in community college), and was generally totally ungrateful for her totally supporting him. He wound up moving in with his biological father and cutting off contact with my aunt. A good thing for her, though she is unhappy about the outcome even though she got rid of one albatross. The other is now 28 and still highly dependent on my aunt, though at least he isn't bat [censored] crazy like his younger half brother. He can't seem to do anything on his own at all though. He is totally dependent on my aunt to handle things like taxes, insurance, contracts, etc. She just does things for him without making him learn how to handle it on his own, and just says "well, it's his ADHD." Here's the thing about the ADHD...he refuses to take medication for it. On top of that, he was supposed to be paying her rent, but I'm pretty sure he hasn't paid her anything for the better part of a year. She buys all his food and a lot of his gas, while he drinks craft beer and smokes cigarettes all the time. She has even let him use her debit card to buy cigarettes even though she objects to him smoking. He is somewhat employed, but it's a variable situation and he has been through countless jobs, and it doesn't really matter since he doesn't contribute. My aunt has somewhat acknowledged that her way of doing things is not sustainable, but also won't force any kind of change. It's just plain crazy, but the lack of rules and expectations has allowed it to happen.
Isn't everyone today diagnosed with either ADHD or Aspergers Syndrome? Seems like the doctors love to diagnose those two.
