Opinions will vary regarding the absolute need to use oem oil filters but there is no disputing these filters are well constructed. In your specific case, because the noise may be coming from an aftermarket filter, i would try the oem.
Concerning the crush washer, yes, i would and do change with every oil-change.
BTW: I have used ToughGuard, NapaGold, Firestone(Champ) and Mobil1 oil filters on our Hyundai without issue.