Originally Posted By: Mr Nice
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I think it pretty much boiled down to the fact that many of my Facebook "friends" revealed themselves to be more narcissistic than I realized. In one way I suppose I owe it to Facebook for shining the light on these folks and giving me a new perspective on them. But...I must confess that for a time, I was compelled to feel that I needed to compete with some for best travel photos or daily adventures. In reality, we all lead fairly mundane lives and posting daily activities is really rather dull.
A pretty good amount of non-intrusive controls can be implemented to minimize any access that you mentioned. Your mailbox should be secure.
Although millions enjoy using Facebook, if any sort of real internet privacy is desired....I'd skip being a member. Or, if general comments/opinions from relatives and pseudo-friends tend to bug you...you'd better skip it. It's almost like when you sit around the table at Thanksgiving. Can't say what you really think, and you must tolerate those that irritate you.
andrewg,
Yep. + 1000000000
Never been on FB as I'm 53 and don't care about what 'friends' , coworkers, family, neighbors, etc.... are doing or where they go on vacation. The thing about FB is that some families have destroyed their relationship because of a few snarky posts by some relatives.
Seems like too many people are trying to 'one up' the other person and trying to be someone they are not.
Google: Facebook feud in San Antonio
I'm 52...so we come from the relatively same time period when a simple phone call, letter, or visit was how REAL friends kept in touch.
Facebook was useful for me to find people I haven't been able to locate for decades. But then after contacting them through this social network, I was sometimes very disappointed. I don't blame Facebook for that, but it seems like just the nature of it promotes people to try and one-up each other.
One Facebook friend (who otherwise was a decent guy) kept posting these daily messages about where he was and what he was doing. Stuff as uninteresting as getting his car washed or going to the doctor. Why do people post that stuff?
Another individual thought it perfectly normal to post photos of himself in various poses.....complete with his shirt off and think he was a bodybuilder or something. Very embarrassing.
Yep... pics of cars, boats, houses, vacations, girlfriends, and anything that made them look "cool". I also can't believe how parents allow children to post so many pics of themselves. Some I've seen are rather provocative....and the girls are only 14-16 years old.
One difficult thing was trying to "unfriend" people and the complicated nature of what that can entail. It can actually cause family squabbles and lost friendships.
My girlfriend has extended family all over the place...she must have 100 or so Facebook friends. I don't know how or why she stays with it. She sometimes complains about it. I just tell her you either ignore those you find annoying....unfriend them....or just get out of the whole thing. She's still in Facebook but mostly to keep in contact with just a few close family members.
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I think it pretty much boiled down to the fact that many of my Facebook "friends" revealed themselves to be more narcissistic than I realized. In one way I suppose I owe it to Facebook for shining the light on these folks and giving me a new perspective on them. But...I must confess that for a time, I was compelled to feel that I needed to compete with some for best travel photos or daily adventures. In reality, we all lead fairly mundane lives and posting daily activities is really rather dull.
A pretty good amount of non-intrusive controls can be implemented to minimize any access that you mentioned. Your mailbox should be secure.
Although millions enjoy using Facebook, if any sort of real internet privacy is desired....I'd skip being a member. Or, if general comments/opinions from relatives and pseudo-friends tend to bug you...you'd better skip it. It's almost like when you sit around the table at Thanksgiving. Can't say what you really think, and you must tolerate those that irritate you.
andrewg,
Yep. + 1000000000
Never been on FB as I'm 53 and don't care about what 'friends' , coworkers, family, neighbors, etc.... are doing or where they go on vacation. The thing about FB is that some families have destroyed their relationship because of a few snarky posts by some relatives.
Seems like too many people are trying to 'one up' the other person and trying to be someone they are not.
Google: Facebook feud in San Antonio
I'm 52...so we come from the relatively same time period when a simple phone call, letter, or visit was how REAL friends kept in touch.
Facebook was useful for me to find people I haven't been able to locate for decades. But then after contacting them through this social network, I was sometimes very disappointed. I don't blame Facebook for that, but it seems like just the nature of it promotes people to try and one-up each other.
One Facebook friend (who otherwise was a decent guy) kept posting these daily messages about where he was and what he was doing. Stuff as uninteresting as getting his car washed or going to the doctor. Why do people post that stuff?
Another individual thought it perfectly normal to post photos of himself in various poses.....complete with his shirt off and think he was a bodybuilder or something. Very embarrassing.
Yep... pics of cars, boats, houses, vacations, girlfriends, and anything that made them look "cool". I also can't believe how parents allow children to post so many pics of themselves. Some I've seen are rather provocative....and the girls are only 14-16 years old.
One difficult thing was trying to "unfriend" people and the complicated nature of what that can entail. It can actually cause family squabbles and lost friendships.
My girlfriend has extended family all over the place...she must have 100 or so Facebook friends. I don't know how or why she stays with it. She sometimes complains about it. I just tell her you either ignore those you find annoying....unfriend them....or just get out of the whole thing. She's still in Facebook but mostly to keep in contact with just a few close family members.
