OK, let us narrow down the suspects.
Firstly, this could be my imagination. I may be seeing grey smoke, almost black-ish. This would be consistent with an engine that needs a tune.
Secondly, the upper hose DOES have a leak in it. Could this be why I see steam from hood whole driving, and also a possible source of coolant to be pressurized out of?
Thirdly, what if the radiator is done for. Any other tests that I can do?
The exhaust smoke smelled more acrid than sweet, if it did at all. Do I see correlation between adding coolant and smoke?.. unsure. It IS really cold out here, maybe it is just heat.
All the coolant mix with the dish detergent is at a lower level than when I put it in last night, I did not even have to take off the lower hose.
Also, just took it for a drive.. Still afraid to come to a complete stop, but once it gets up to temperature it seems to run stronger, and the SES light stays off most of the time, sometimes it comes back on.. scratching my head right now.